Re: So what if I do not want to have kids?
Bebo, I sooooo understand where you are coming from.
See, I only had a simple nikkah, no mehndi, no rukhsati and no walima and people keep on questioning me about it every time I step outside of the house…..it's made not only my life but my mum's life a misery. She doesn't go to khutams or any Islamic Darse anymore because people always taunt her and ask her why she didn't have a wedding for me. I don't like going shopping or weddings even the mosque during Ramadan because people keep asking me why I didn't have a wedding.
Last week I was out and I met one of the aunties' daughter's who is only a couple of years older than me and she said "oh well never mind you can wear you lengha to your sister in -law's wedding" (my husband's brother is getting married next month). I felt really really hurt and I still can't forget that comment. It was a mutual decision between my husband and I that we would not have a big wedding, instead we would have a simple nikkah and buy a big house, we thought it made sense especially as I'm not into the whole organising a wedding thing and nor is my husband.
Some people look at me and my mum as though I have run away from home and am living in sin. Some aunties have even said to my mum that even though I have had my nikkah I am not married until the big wedding/rukhsati. Many people in my community deny that I am married and think I'm living with my bf even though I invited all my friends to my nikkah, my family, my husbands family and relatives. And the hafiz saab who read my nikkah is the most well known and most popular Hafiz in the whole of East London. Most of the aunties have even seen my nikkah album with everyone's photo and the nikkah video!
I also have my nikkah nama to prove it. Should I photocopy it and post it through every letter box in London?