Re: So what if I do not want to have kids?
Sahar: That was* very* well said!
why do you care so much about what people think? you've made up your mind and you have no regrets, so why should anyone else have regrets on your behalf? its not their place, regardless of if they're parents or parents in law.
people will always find something or the other to gossip/complain/advise you about... if you have a kid, it'll be when you're having a second one. once you have a second one, they'll say time for a third. when you do have a third, they'll say oh! haven't heard of family planning, have you? if you adopt, they'll gossip even more. if you have a boy, they'll want a girl. if you have a girl, they'll think a boy would have been better. i mean, theres no end to this... so let it go.
you're a grownup, you've made a rational decision that fits your lifestyle and your choices, and when you're ready for a kid, IF you're ever ready, you'll have one. and if not, then thats fine too.
enjoy your life and stop worrying so much about their opinions, its honestly going to do nothing but cause you aggravation. and remember, the more you defend yourself, the more they know they're getting to you, and the more they'll talk.
next time someone asks you, tell them you haven't decided yet, but when you have, they'll be one of the first to know. then politely change the topic and ask them about their kids.
SGC has pretty much summed up everything I was about to say.
Bebo, You shouldn't care about what others say. As long as you and your hubby has a good understanding on this matter, I don't think it matters what other talk about. Be strong and just ignore them. People are meant to talk/gossip/complain/interfere in other people's personal stuff so they will continue to talk.... you just ignore and move on.