So what if I do not want to have kids?

[mysti]

@somegroovychick

we’ve been married for just over a year now, and lately the baby questioning has just jumped into full-speed mode - everyone and their mom wants to know, but fair enough, we want kids. i talk about having kids with my family, my hubby is looking forward to it too and hopefully next year this time, we’ll be expecting. what we’re getting now though, is the other side of the argument- will you quit work after you have the baby? daycares are no good. if you don’t stay at home with your baby and instead go back to work and send them to daycare with strangers, then you’re a bad mother. but what if i have to go back to work? what if thats the only way we can afford a certain lifestyle and be able to give our kid what we want? and more than that, what if i WANT TO? it seems even when you choose to have a child, there are always people out there wanting to rain on your parade and make sure you conform to the kind of life they led, whether it was pleasant or not. in the end, you really must stick to your guns and do what makes you and your partner happy… even if you have to hear about it for the rest of your life

awwww SGC - hugzz but I totally agree with what your saying - me and my hubby want kids.. not right now because we have plans - we want to have fun, travel, do things together; I want to finish off my degree and be prepared; have the mental freedom that i dnt have a pending education that I need to take care of after the baby comes along. On the other hand, Ive only been married for 3 mnths and Im being asked the “when are u planning on settling down question”. Honestly, I thought marriage meant settling down - having a baby meant expanding ur family.. but anyhow I think that as long as me and my husband agree on a certain few things with respect to this matter - no one else should have to tell me what to do, or when to do it by.