Yesterday Was My Cousins Mehndi Function, it was a small function in a house with only close relatives and some close neighbourhood friends.. I Walked in holding my son, his blanket, baby bag and his blanket… took off my coat and babys coat and saw my mom and asked her to hold my son while i set up all my stuff… i saw my aunt and a few other ladies giving ‘salamy’ (money) to the girl so i thought i should do it as well, as i might forget later on.. so i called my aunt and gave her the salami and closed the zip of my purse (with the remaining $230 i had in my purse) i took my purse and decided to leave it in the room with all the coats since its hard to carry a a baby and the purse at the same time.. so i placed it behind a sofa and put the baby bag on top. after mehndi finished i came home and my husband was sitting on the sofa and asked if i had change for a $50 i quickly said yes and opened my purse… and i was SHOCkeD to see the money missing. yes, someone took money out of my purse… 
if it would have fallen out then the zip wouldnt have been closed and all the coins should have fallen out as well.. but nope jus the cash missing… iam not really worried about the money i’ll jus think its gone for sadka, but the thing thats bothering me is that someone there actually did this 
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yea i know… but i didnt think this would happen since it was mostly only family 
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its a cruel world ..... same here it happened to me a few times ... infront of my eyes but cos there were others present .. they didnt admit it and just this time i went pak and i ws asleep and left my wallet there next to my pillow and in the morning Rs2000 were missing .... and its happened to me a few times ...and its just sad ...
if a person wants money just ask for it ..alhamdolillah i am ok with giving money out and i wudnt say no ... the problem is whn they take it without telling ...
i just kinda tend to forget about this kinda thing ... it upsets u even more especially if you know who the person is who has done such things to u...
Re: So Upset
Stealing is a habit. Anyone can have it. If u look at the corruption in gov, u'll find all the rich people doing it.
So just be careful :)
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that sucks! :/ and at a family event too!
honestly if you can't trust your people, who can you trust?
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its just so sad, isnt it? i went to pakistan twice- the first time i had so much money stolen right IN my nana/khala's house and my other khala who was visiting from canada had about 1500 dollars stolen. noone knew what happened to them, etc etc. the second time around when i went back, i knew that i had to keep my money somewhere noone can get to cuz obviously it was someone in the house (as horrible as that sounds). it was definitely not the naukars, i trusted them alot. so i land there, 2 hrs later, 300 bucks are missing from my wallet while i had gone to freshen up and read namaz. i threw a major fit- i was SO pissed. an hour later, the money was seen thrown right by my suitcase. then the entire time while i was there, i was missing atleast something, sweaters to rings to bracelets and even my facewash!!!! i was like wtf?? i mean the first couple of times, i thought ok so maybe i left it back at home but then i would call my sister and she would say no, nothing here. but when things started disappearing so much, i was like what in the world is going on and started locking my suitcase. it didnt even look nice to go investigate my khalas or anyone else cuz that would just be accusing them blatantly. this youngest aunt of mine, whos only a few yrs older than me and doesnt like me at all for whatever reasons btw, had never really spoken to me everytime i visited. she always seemed really pissed or annoyed or whatever. so one night, she was gone somewhere, and she has this closet thats always locked. it was left unlocked that night and one of my lil cousins was swinging around on the door and i told him to stop doing it and while i was pulling him away, i saw ALL my stuff in her closet. i was SHOCKED!!! from my sweater to rings, jewelry to even my facewash!!!!! i was like omg. i just took all my stuff back and put it in my suitcase. the next day, she asked if i had touched her closet and i said yes, you stole my things and to that she said, no i saw your stuff lying around and i wanted it to be safe (???!!!!!) and well from then on, just to make sure that i didnt go around telling everyone what she had done, she basically called up all my other aunts that night, making stories up about how i always accuse her of one thing or other just to cover up her own self. it was so sad because i was never gonna go around complaining to my aunts about what she had done. needless to say, in just a couple of days, most of them just started being real mean to me (god knows what she had told them) but it got so bad after a while that i called up my dad and asked him to change my flights to as soon as possible. i havent gone back because it just shocks me everytime i think about it. and even though, i havent spoken to most of them since the last 3 years even since i got back, the youngest one has always able to blame me for something or the other (which i guess i will post about later).
i would have never refused if she had asked me for money. infact, sometimes if we would all go shopping, when it would be time to pay the shopkeeper money, she would say, pay this much.. and i would be like ummm am i not just buying my OWN things? and to that she would say, i forgot money at home, ill give it to u later.. which obviously never was true. but still, she works and makes money herself, i dont understand why she would steal from me. ok so even if she stole money, maybe she needed it for something or whatever. but for her to steal even the smallest things like jewelry (none of them were gold or valuable btw) and facewashes and sweaters, it just shocks me.
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^ Goodness that's just terrible!!!
It's sad, but every time my mom and I go out and it's crowded her purse ends up being opened by someone. And it's so weird b/c she' keeps it to herself so tightly...frotunately nothing has ever been taken i think all the dust from the supariyan blow into their faces and they run away :D
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^hahahahaahhahhaha!!!
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oh wow, yea knowing who did that is much much worse then not knowing.... but its always good to know so you can be careful of your belongings arund that person... but thasts jus horrible, ask and i wont say no u know
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the best way then, to avoid such disallusionment that comes with happening of such things is, to be careful :)
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find the culprit and of with his/her hand…
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Tht’s awful having your money stolen at a family/friends function. pretty much the last place u expect ure money to be stolen from. And worst when u actually knw who stole it, it’s an evil world wht can i say 
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that sucks, shay! im guessing since shes so young and you're close to her in age, its jealousy? she wants what you have and this is the only way she can get it?