so there's a guy..

Lifestyle Relationships
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what would u do if u were to be in this scenerio:
girl:23 y/o
guy:33 y/o
they were together/committed for a few months, guy tells girl that he wants to get married. girl says she isnt ready as she’s still in grad school and that he should wait atleast another 2 years. guy says his parents are getting old and their health is deteriorating so he wants to settle down. girl is overwhelmed and feels fears things are moving too fast. both become distant. they break up. guy starts looking for other rishtas, girl is upset and talks to her parents about it. 1 month passes..girl still wants to be with the guy. girl’s parents are ready to meet the guys family..guy says his family is already interested in another family and to back out now would be wrong/unfair to the other girl and her family. guys side really likes the other girl also. guy is mad at girl #1 bc she didnt want to be with him at first and is sorry that him and his family are interested in girl #2. girl is even more upset, finds it hard to ge over him and cant imagine being without him. what should she do?

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she should just move on. bus aik baar nikal jaiy tu us k peechay dora nahi kertay next bus ka wait kertay hain hope that solves the dilemma :)

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Re: so there's a guy..

girl # 1 can't do anything really...it's up to the guy...if the guy has strong feelings for girl # 1 then he'll give her a chance again...otherwise, it's too late...simple as that :)

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She should wait for the guy to figure out who HE wants. No point being with a guy who isn't 'into' you 100%. If he truly wants to be with girl #1, he'll accept her despite whatever happened earlier. The ball is in his court.

Wht r u doing ?
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Re: so there's a guy..

vohi hoga jo allah ko manzoor hua..

ab ziade peech parne/minte karne ka loi faida nehi..

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yup. if he really wanted to be with girl #1, he would have made it happen. he's 33, i'm sure he's capable of convincing his parents of which ever girl he wants. he's obviously moved on, i think it's best if girl #1 does too.

Wht r u doing ?
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What is the guy and girl's ages, out of interest?

If this girl wasn't ready, perhaps she should have asked her b/friend for them to get engaged until her studies were complete. This guy wants to get married quickly and he has his good reasons too as well. It doesn't seem like he felt strongly about the 1st girl, otherwise he wouldn't have left her and given up trying to convince her. Or he must have got some notion from her that she wasn't serious about him. Two sides to every story.

That girl should accept what has happened, learn to live with the heart ache, finish her studies and in time she will feel better and want to find someone else. Like I said in another thread, the world population is over 6,000,000,000 - so she will definitely find another guy for sure! :)

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^she has their ages in her post. girl:23 guy:33

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:k:

move on.

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sob...

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lol true! thanks for your reply

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So true. If arranged marriage proves anything, it's that you don't need to search far and wide for that magical 'one person in the universe' in order to have a happy and successful marriage.

Sounds like the age gap was a little too much---esp with the girl in early twenties and guy in thirties---because in this case it translates into them being in different life stages. Better for her to find someone who at a similar stage in life.

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so why did the girl started dating a much older guy esp when she wsn't serious or looking for life long commitment. was it that she started out for fun n after break up realized how far she has gone emtionally. likewise mayb the guy started out with serious intentions n seeing her lack of commitment decides to move on.

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Heart over brain, most likely. Very common.