SO & parents coming over to meet the family

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Re: SO & parents coming over to meet the family

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If they have yet to officially ask then maybe bring that up with your bf, to talk to his family about setting up a dinner date where his family brings that proposal to your parents. Even though it’s understood it’s a yes, your parents would probably appreciate them asking in a more formal way to make it officially official. A ring doesn’t always make it official, that can be verbal too until it’s been discussed as to how both families would like to proceed with a ring exchange (big fancy engagement with lots of guests, small thing at home, a nikah) and I agree that it would be presumptuous for them to bring on a ring on the first meeting. The way it’s usually done in my fam is baat paki is done verbally where both families hangout a few times over dinner and then once it’s official that it’s a done deal they move forward with deciding on how to do an engagement. My cousin had an engagement party where they brought the ring and myself and another cousin had a Nikah date that was set which served as our engagement period until the wedding. My cousin who had an engagement also married her high school sweetheart and baat paki was acknowledged over dinner and then followed by a party in a banquet hall that served as the engagement where they brought the ring.

Yep, the plan is that they’re coming in a week or two to meet my family and bring the proposal. It just kind of overcomplicates things that with our school/work schedule (and the fact that his family lives clear across the country) that we can’t just plan an initial dinner party to get to know each other and another for them to actually formally propose.

How long was the period between your nikkah and wedding? That’s the way his family wants to do it – to make it halal ASAP–but I don’t know how I feel about it.