Reha
May 28, 2010, 2:11pm
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sadzzz:
Reha, u talking about our parents generation or older generation?
I think their version of love was a lot more simpler… like maybe their husbands giving them a bit of attention, a few gifts here and there… and i belive some of us are still like that. Unless we’re exposed to other types of romantic stuff… we dont want it. Does that make sense?
Now, we want to spend more time being a couple… more intimate and passionate time… but maybe thats cus we’re living in a society where its deemed quite necessary to have a relationship like that with ones spouse..
if i speak of my relos back in pakistan, who are of the same age… who got married around the same time as I… their version of love and romance will be quite different. Heck, if i wasnt married to my husband, I would have been different too… dunno
I guess Im talking about a generation above us. Our parents. And the funny thing is, I never thought about it the way you said it. That because it was as simpler time, expectations were simpler and more straightforward as well.
Reha,
For once I disagree with you lol. I think their generation was all about Romance. Look at the difference between Romantic movies from the black and white days, the 70’s, 80’s, early 90’s and look at the movies now. Today’s movies involve less romance and more comedy which often revolves around cheating husbands.
I also feel that people are much more open about the facts of life such as sex, drugs, entertainment, than they were before. It feels like there is so much more to concentrate on. Most people are working full time, going to school, are constantly on their phones, watching TV, listening to music, and they have forgotten about the simple pleasures in life.
I miss the good old days when men were supposed to chivalrous and would do anything for their love. Nowadays a man’s response to his mistake is “If you wanna leave than leave”, and will be with another chick within a month, and even that is a stretch lol.
I think women nowadays want romance, but don’t get it as much.
I wish I lived in more simple time.
DB, I agree with you…lol. I think its true…men dont have to worry about winning love as much anymore. I think thats sad.
of course they had the same “umeedein” that we do…and i think those umeedien got fulfilled alot more in the older times than they do now. haven’t you seen the arts/media from that era…just watch a movie from the 60s or 70s, it all used to be so simple and straightforward. if a man loved a woman he treated her well and thats all there was to it. nowadays, media portrays men who are absolute jerks to their wives and still supposedly love them on the inside…its just that they have a hard time displaying emotion and sharing feelings. seems like men have made up so many excuses for their lazy behavior over the decades that we’ve gotten tired of expecting anything better
case in point: my dad, no matter what kinda financial situation we were in or no matter how much of a rough patch him n mom were goin through, ALWAYS got her surprise presents on her birthday n anniversary. this included flowers, jewelery, gifts, even poems!! i always thought it was embarassing and thanked god it only happened a few times a year. i have NEVER seen my mom give a gift in return. lol. now i know, that i am always under equal pressure to give my hubby an awesome gift on any occasion knowing full well that it will seem unfair if he keeps giving me stuff n i never return the love. i’ve seen in my friends that if a girl relaxes about gift-giving a lil bit the guy will take it as a hint that there’s no need for gifts or surprises in the relationship anymore. how come our dads didnt take the lack of gift recieving as a signal to stop giving also? cuz they were gentlemen and our generation boys are idiots!
edit: oops i totally just rewrote what desi beautii said without realizing it. an “i agree with above post” would’ve sufficed i guess
Soooo true.
Does this mean our generation is less likely to fall in love…like the kind of love our parents were in?