…your husband and you are having a good old time in married life and all of a sudden your husband gets a message from his Ex. Lets say its THE Ex. The one before you, the one where if they hadn’t broken up you two wouldn’t be together.
Is it okay for him to respond to the e-mail/text etc?
And the e-mail or text or whatever message it is, inquires about him and married life and how he is doing. You know the standard “casual” opening e-mail from long lost friends.
No this isn’t a personal example. It is to illustrate a point.
I would nauchify his eyes out, then move on to whatever bachay-kuchay baal he has left, dump all three of HIS kids on him and take off with his credit cards…let the NEW wife sambhal them all
It depends. I would not be happy if the casual text/e-mail/FB message is meant to re-connect and start some sort of friendship. However, if there is a valid reason behind that 1st message/e-mail then I would be ok with it.
Personal example: My husband's ex (in fact, she really was "THE ex" before me) had sent him a random FB message (they're still friends on FB). She is also a physician. How did I find out about this? While hanging out with a group of friends (hubby's friends who are also physicians & know the ex), my husband himself mentioned to another person that he had exchanged a few messages for "EX" b/c she was moving to a city where he (my husband) did part of his residency and "EX" was basically making professional inquiries b/c he spent some time at a hospital where she was planning on applying for a job. And no, this didn't bother me one bit & I never brought it up again with him.
Ever since I got married my trolling has taken a huge dive. Nobody cares to be irritated at me anymore.
The point I wanted to make is that by and large most women would be irate if not angry that some old flame was contacting their husband. Regardless of the husband's transgressions or lack there off, there would be some level of anger, annoyance etc.
This an example of a passive incident.
Yet in a case of an active action to look up an old flame and the woman would stalk her old flames, is a completely different issue but is a-okay.
I really wonder with you women sometimes.
And Khatti you would so give your man the cold shoulder for just an hour or two to show your annoyance at the matter till he made a mends in some way :p
He doesn't have an Ex and I don't intend on being one. I just mentioned in the other thread that he gets friend requests on FB from this girl who used to like him A LOT. Hubby never showed any interest in her apparently but she keeps on inquiring about him. I am not upset that she tries to contact him. I just find it wrong because she is married and has kids. Now, I am sure if hubby and her were "together" at some point, I would be upset by her frequent friend requests. It's one thing to look someone up once in 2 years or something but to keep sending friend requests every two months is definitely crossing a line.
.....your husband and you are having a good old time in married life and all of a sudden your husband gets a message from his Ex. Lets say its THE Ex. The one before you, the one where if they hadn't broken up you two wouldn't be together.
Is it okay for him to respond to the e-mail/text etc?
And the e-mail or text or whatever message it is, inquires about him and married life and how he is doing. You know the standard "casual" opening e-mail from long lost friends.
No this isn't a personal example. It is to illustrate a point.
don't know the answer to this, but i don't think it should be a big deal for the wives, because in cases where the husband's ex is from his friends group or his cousin then even after break up, the two do remain in touch and it doesn't annoy wive as such.
