…a few months after he landed a great job, you learn your husband’s responsibilities include ‘entertaining’ firm’s clients, taking them to clubs and parties. “Strippers etc the works”. Not participating in such parties might risk him losing the job and go back to the measly paying job.
Kosher? Not Kosher? 
Re: so ladies II...
Man I like the way you think. :D More importantly considering this does happen in the business sector
Re: so ladies II...
I will tell him to quit. I can do guzara in his very less salary.
I personally wont prefer to work at such firm where your job is at risk coz you didnt want to go with your client to a night club :-P I myself will quit that job.
Re: so ladies II...
^ So because you don't approve of his job, you will have him suffer a significant reduction/deterioration in his income and lifestyle.
Re: so ladies II…
^ and later on give him ‘taaanay’ that he doesn’t earn enough 
Re: so ladies II…
Good question!
In some professions there is “an old boy’s club” and there is an expectation that you take clients out for socializing. The nature of socializing differs from one group to another and from one set of clients to another.
The easy answer, is no - strip clubs are a no-go - that’s going too far and I think that’s a line you can easily avoid crossing. But, I’ll be honest, the “line” is different for different people. Bars or resto-lounges that serve alcohol - that doesn’t bother me, but for others that’s also a taboo. And truth to tell, have you seen the clothes the waitresses don’t wear at some of these places? 
So then does it make me hypocritical saying, strip clubs = not kosher and bars - well that’s up to the person?
And okay, here’s another one thrown into the mix. We have some amazing upscale restaurants here in town and there’s one that’s a offline betting bar/restaurant. Given that people gamble there, is that taboo as well - the client can gamble, and yet you choose not to or even taking the client to the race track - kosher or not kosher?
And not to turn it around and answer a question with a question, but what if it’s the wife who has to take the clients out? Kosher for her or not?
Question is what does he want to do? What does his conscience tell him is right? If he is willing to go to such an inappropriate place for some extra money - well then I would think less of his judgment and values.
Re: so ladies II…
would the woman be able to accompany him during every single one of these parties with the strippers, taking part in 'entertaining" the firm’s clients too. ya know helping in the process, trust is important of course but i think going along would not mean that there is no trust. i don’t see why strippers need to be seen anyways, what kind of low class company is the man working for taking them out to dinner seems more appropriate
would a man be ok if his wife had to do a similar type of job where she would need to meet up with clients every night?
Re: so ladies II...
Question is what does he want to do? What does his conscience tell him is right? If he is willing to go to such an inappropriate place for some extra money - well then I would think less of his judgment and values.
would a man be ok if his wife had to do a similar type of job where she would need to meet up with clients every night?
why u guys dodge the question and make it about whether man is ok or not?? you can always open another thread........this is how every thread turns into a gender war...just an observation..no offence ...
Re: so ladies II...
If the wife has a problem wiht it, she's essentailly forcing the dude to live on a lesser income. If she is okay with taking the job, does that mean she's a gold digger who only cares about the money?
Right?
Re: so ladies II...
I don't care as long as there are no strip clubs involved or prostitutes...ofcoz you need to have LOADS of trust in him or it is going to DRIVE YOU UP THE WALL!!!
Re: so ladies II...
why u guys dodge the question and make it about whether man is ok or not?? you can always open another thread........this is how every thread turns into a gender war...just an observation..no offence ...
there doesn't need to be a gender war if you guys just saw men and woman as human beings. there is no difference in this if you saw a wife as a human being and her reaction as being a normal human response.
a woman wouldn't be happy with her husband entertaining clients by going to strip club every night just like a man wouldn't be happy with his wife being made to do something similar. It's a silly question and i think men know the answer to it. why must there be visits to strip clubs, which respectable company would take clients to strip clubs.
i guess it goes back to trust, i would trust him fully but why take the risk, why even visit such places to entertain clients. you guys are the ones making mountains out of molehills
Re: so ladies II...
Not kosher, that's just crossing the line.
Re: so ladies II…
:mirch:…hold it there…who said women are not human beings?? 
OMG…:mirch:
Re: so ladies II…
i’m saying see a woman’s or a man’s response to strip club visits in a similar way. don’t differentiate between the two. a human being wouldn’t be too happy seeing another human being they might be in love with going to strip clubs every night to entertain clients as much as they might trust each other. the reaction for the most part would be the same.
Re: so ladies II...
why u guys dodge the question and make it about whether man is ok or not?? you can always open another thread........this is how every thread turns into a gender war...just an observation..no offence ...
The question - is it kosher -you want an answer to that? Fine it's not kosher. But if I come out and say it, I'm imposing my views on him - so I can't win for trying. That's why turning it around - the other person is made responsible for what is essentially a value decision.
It's a matter or personal accountability.
Re: so ladies II…
I was actually going to ask this, sometime we receive clients whom we have to entertain like take them to fine restaurant.. and after that they would like to see the night life in ny .. ..
but it felt so cool to have booz & ladies over you on P-cards.. 