Re: So is it really true...
I totally agree that marriage is not the solution to get over someone. Parents, when they find that their child loves someone other than their choice, tend to get him/her married to their choice asap. Hoping that this would get them.
I think its just bad coz now they have ruined three lives rather than just one. I just hope that it doesn't happen to me.. actually i won't let it happen to me. I know it might hurt my parents in short run but in long run when they see us happy together, it will all make sense to them.
Traditions should not influence what religion grants us BUT religion should influence on our traditions. Unfortunately, desi parents still value "tumhari dadi wanted you to marry this cousin" more than their childs prefs.
Just wanted to add that in the end whatever happens i have my firm believe in Allah(SWT) HE is the one who made my heart soft for someone and HE is the one who really knws whom i would be happy with.. that doesn't mean don't do anything.. Allah helps those who help themselves. This is what gets me through my tough times.
sigh