the place where i work is owned by my friend’s dad..we have been together in uni and worked together in our uni project for her dad’s company..and since i worked on the project they hired me after i was done with uni…things were going good so faar..i have been a bit irregular as i said i have taken up all my yearly holidays and guess im slightly above the limit now…last week i took off again(i dint feel like facing the world)..my friend callled me(she works there too) asking abt the pasword of the system i used 3-4 months back…i said i dun remember n etc etc..she was acting all weird as if its my mistake i have forgotten the pwd..i felt bad abt the way she talked to me(she never talks like this usually)..n now we havent talked to eachother for three days just a hello hi..i wonder wats wrong actually…if its due to my exceddding absence from office..then she shudnt be the one talkin to me for it or showing me attitude(we both are on same posts in office)..some hr or my team lead shud talk abt it and surprisingly none of those ppl have said a word to me about my absence..i know im making a mess out of it and i shud ignore it..
this job is very imp for me..i want to save money for my masters…n i wonder if shez being all arrogant abt it shud i quit…
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y shud u quit..just because of her???/oh c'mon at workplace u have to face these things everyday..just remember those who mind dont matter,and those who matter dont mind;)..dun be so sensitive..cheer up girl:)
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Try to take her out for lunch and have a heart to heart conversation ... it might be possible that she is feeling ignored ... after all she is your friend since a long time , you cant just let that fact slip by .. give it a sincere shot , speak to her openly , tell her how you feel .. if eventually she doesnt respond to you nicely , then just give her, her space and take a back step , dont focus too much on her ... if your immediate team mates and seniors are happy with your work , you should be sitting there satisfied ....
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just ask her.
i'd be pissed if a colleague took unjustified holidays ("didn't feel like facing the world??") and forgot stuff too. she probably feels that you think you can do this because you feel you won't get fired (due to her father owning the business). taking liberties innit.
if the job is important to you, try taking it more seriously and don't take any more holidays. show her that it's important to you and you want to do a good job and yea, try to clear the air by having lunch with her or something.
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If you dont think forgetting the password, or taking days off because you dont want to face the world is a big deal (in the real world), then maybe no point in replying any further.
I'm with your friend on this one...thisnt a Uni project any more! You are being paid!
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one thing I fail to understand that how come this job is "so important" for you when you are taking off just because "you feel like it".
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Like the other said, if this job is important then you need to treat it more professionally. Your friend might be giving you the shoulder as she may be getting grief cuz of "her friend" not taking things seriously and she may not be liking getting blamed for other's actions. As someone said, take her out to lunch, in a casual setting and talk to her. After all she is your friend.
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question: would u be as laid back about the job if it weren't ur friends dad's company?
seriously, i dont know too many boss's who would be happy about employees taking too much time off... and especially for reasons that u have given.
Everyone's allowed a break now and then.. but exceeding those days/hours, is an expense to the company. Also, i would definately be ticked off with u if i were ur friend...
And hr is prob asking ur friend to give u a call if they know ur close and stuff... i know i used to work with a friend for a good 5 years, and we had done uni together too.. and if one or the other was away, the boss would ask either one of us to give each other a call to find out whats up..
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i know i shud be more regular and it wud all be different if it wasnt her dad;s company...but the thing thats bugging me is that she herself comes late to office...has taken more leaves then me..and set her aside everyone in office comes at random timings..there are ppl who come at 11 everyday..n there are ppl who have nothing to do all day...i have been doing my work on time n my team lead is happy with my work..then y out of all the ppl are they targetting me for disobeying the rules
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You should start taking some responsibility . If you can't remember the password then its your fault . Just go say sorry to her and keep your work environment healthy . It will help you in the long run .
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dont quit the job
talk to her its might be a very little thing, may be there is some reason she feel uneasy or may be not, but there must be something her attituate is changed.
talk to her friendly
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no the password is not an issue at all...i changed my pc and its been 3-4 months since i used the old pc..so its natural that i wud forget the password..it has happened to a lot of ppl before in office n it has never been as issue to anyone..they know how to break the passwords...
n i have been responsible about the work assigned..i usually finish it before time and no one has ever had issues
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im thinking of bringing chocolates for her tomorrow n forget abd watever happend...or shud i first ask her watever is bugging her..
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ask her what ever is bugging her .. there is no short cuts in communication.. you gotta do it ... no chocolates can replace a grudge if she holds one for you....
im thinking of bringing chocolates for her tomorrow n forget abd watever happend...or shud i first ask her watever is bugging her..
That is how men handle it . :p
ask her what ever is bugging her .. there is no short cuts in communication.. you gotta do it ... no chocolates can replace a grudge if she holds one for you....
That is how women handle it :D
That is how men handle it . :p
That is how women handle it :D
LOL!
i know i shud be more regular and it wud all be different if it wasnt her dad;s company...but the thing thats bugging me is that she herself comes late to office...has taken more leaves then me..and set her aside everyone in office comes at random timings..there are ppl who come at 11 everyday..n there are ppl who have nothing to do all day...i have been doing my work on time n my team lead is happy with my work..then y out of all the ppl are they targetting me for disobeying the rules
Lost Angel, dont feel sorry for yourself and do not compare yourself to her. She is the boss' daughter first and your friend 2nd. Ask yourself do you value this job...do you need and want it? Will you be ok if you leave? Will you be able to get another job? Once you are clear in your mind then take actions accordingly.
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Maybe they know you're taking days off because you just don't feel like going to work and they don't like that.
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u know maybe she's just upset with something else.. like because u were gone she got dumped with extra work, im just saying.. and maybe she's the office bully.. if i were in ur shoes.. i wouldn't care, if she's a friend she'll come around, id treat her like normal.. like if u both go out to lunch, then continue to do that.