I don't know if this will help you lot but I have never directly asked a girl out. I always ask indirectly. it leaves cushioning for both of us. For example, I would say... hey, listen I am gonna go catch this movie after eating at this place, what are you upto for this friday night?. It sounds informal and friendly and the success rate is phenomenal.
FG I would say..."are you asking me out? or you just need a buddy to tag along with?"
Why are u still single then? 
Or are u one of ‘those’ kinda guys aswell?; Flirting/dating is fine as long as it doesnt get serious
me just kidding shino :)
a lot of guys are just players...larki ziyada serious honay laggi to darr kay bhaag jaatay hain
FG: that's exactly what I did. He freaked out and wrote an email to me that said "This is making me uncomfortable. This all needs to stop".
Yeah. I was just like "uhhhhhhh"
he said that? 
acha, pull the reigns girl…and ignore him.
I thought girls were the gurus of ignoring. What's becoming of my GS girls. Just ignore the damn guy.
Actually I admire the guy. At least he didn't abuse you liking him. A guy without scruples could have just easily used your obvious interest as an excuse to take advantage of you but it's easy to attack the guy no?
pcg man, you need to work on being all smooooth and subtle. "lets go hang out and get to know each other"?!?! you might as well have said "hallo i vaant sapeshal fraanship vith you".
I agree 
because plenty of men will take advantage of you going all warm and fuzzy on them. The decent ones will be flattered; if there is interest there, they will show it through action if not directly with words and if there is no interest, either they’ll become uncomfortable and tongue-tied or want to make a fast exit. Whatever the case, I think it isn’t fair to point a finger at every guy the same way BUT I can totally understand what girls go through when making the move on guys 
I can relate…
I was talking to this guy via e-mail recently and after like two months when I casually asked if our “relationship” will be solely based on e-mails or whether this was going anywhere, he never contacted me. It has been almost three weeks but you know what? Good riddance to bad rubbish…better to know now the type of manners this guy has than sitting around fantasizing.
Basically, in the culture I was raised in—in the US–I find no harm is taking the assertive approach but at the same time when you are constantly having negative experiences, you almost want to throw your hands up in the air and leave everything to fate. Ayi!
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pcg man, you need to work on being all smooooth and subtle. "lets go hang out and get to know each other"?!?! you might as well have said "hallo i vaant sapeshal fraanship vith you".
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Oh queerie you get cuter by the day. I have to agree with my beta here, there was no need to say get to know each other, that was a given unless you had something else in mind.
^ HAHAHAHAH. Queerio, I never saw it that way. Man I must have seemed like a fob!
Well, it was my first time. My intent is for there never to be a second time. I want the guy to come to me. They need to work for it.
shrugs At any rate, after this whole incident, I've been able to get work done.
Try talking to him. Talk it out, most guys can get suckered into at least a friendship thingy. So, try to play that angle. Unless you professed love or requested marriage, you can claim ignorance of any ideas he must've gotten and say you just wanna be friends. And then when he least expects it, bam, ask him out.
"I always ask indirectly."
Tsk why? I mean why leave the other party all confused about your intentions? If you're trying to save your face in case she turns down the offer, tau ego and romance are two different words.
The few times I've been asked were very direct and I tried not to embarrass them as they were all nice ppl and pretty good friends as well. When / If ppl show interest, respect that, you don't need to do anything if you don't want to. Why make it shoo complicated. Can't believe you guys spend so much time thinking up games and all sorts of stuff :p
This guy sounds like me, 
ok, serious.. he may have done isthakhara, and doesnt feel the same, as some of you said he’s ‘religous’..
or he might not want to be with you ‘alone’.. i dono.. ask him wsup..
no need to complicate the matter, just talk to him.
If you ask me, the guy is insecure, he is afraid of a dominating girl like you, (sorry) you might wanna deny it, but your personality comes out this way on GS .. but this doesnt mean you should give up your personality and change yourself, you will find someone who is confident and not insecure, who will treat you right. This guy should be ignored, dont let him spoil your life.
I agree with Saadia here...men don;t like women who seem stronger be it emotionally or mentally than themselves...and like Shikra said in another thread "it won't happen (the scare)..coz I'm MAN enough to ask her first"
PCG better that the lil boy run away now than you share your self with him and then he runs out coz he figures that he isn't as intelligent and strong as you are.
^^ talk abt boxer-womens intelligence. u two are quite a duo.
Ameen :k:
rotfl !!!!
I know I come off as a bit "strong". Its not like he's not intelligent. The boy is 1 year younger than me , and already in med school. Quite a turn on. Nonetheless, I know what you're saying.
Its funny though. I know that's a major issue, but guys don't realize that I'd be such a great wifey! I'm quite different to pple in general than I am with pple I love.
Ah well.