So I got to thinking...

[Daddy_s_Girl]

@diamond321

Everybody is saying here that bahu should khidmat of inlaws out of humanity and kindness and should have tolerance…I agree ! but for that she should be appreciated and should be treated like a daughter too no one can bear 24/7 tanay from inlaws. Its like when it comes to bahu she should treat parent inlaws as her own parents but when it comes to inlaws they cant treat her like a daughter and will treat her like a bahu only …is this fair?
When you face such an attitude that "you have do it regardless of your feelings " , “even if you are sick or dying or pregnant you have to serve inlaws and thats a order” and you are under a constant AZMAISH by them and they treat you like a slave then I can tell you that LIFE BECOMES HELL for a bahu. Her self esteem and self worth is completely destroyed. The inlaws think that after signing the marriage contract she has signed a contract of slavery and will not even breathe without their permission then that is wrong ! Guy here are saying that they also do for inlaws etc but what ever they do is out of consideration , respect and love they are not ORDERED to do because girl’s side of the family does not have a authoritative position towards the guy where as the guy side of the family think they have authority and they use it.

Agreed, but what you are talking about here is the individual people involved and their behaviour and attitudes. This thread was about Islam’s stand on whether a daughter in law is required to look after her in laws.
To put up with such behaviour and to not say anything when someone is doing “zulm” on you is also against Islam…
…in the above situation, no human in their right mind should put up with that and if a husband cannot defend his wife or lets the above happen, then he is not a husband. Islam is NOT a hard religion to follow… it’s us who make it hard!