You go to undergrad. Uni’s far away from home. You live on campus or something. You graduate. You’ve been living away from home for at least 3 years. Do you move in back with your parents, or do you do the white people thing and find your own place. Remember, you are desi and have desi parents.
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I will move back with them for sure.
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Come back home.... the stay at dorm makes us understand clearly how precious a home is..
I can’t imagine living away from my parents!! Didn’t even move away for my undergrad, luckily I got admission in the local uni. Last year, everyone (except me n my dad) went to Pakistan to prepare for my sister’s wedding. I was doing my internship so I only went a week before the wedding. I used to cry like a baby when I used to come back home and there was nobody there!! I cried myself to sleep so many times! lolz…
I wub my parents 
If I could transfer to my parents city, I wouldn't even think twice.
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move back in, but thats the desi perspective and i believe in it :k:
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I will move back in.
I went to one of my class mate's house once. I met her mother she was very nice and had a good sense of humor. But for some reason she kept on nagging her daughter (my friend) about the fact that she still lives at home! I was like huhh??
I went away for school and could have found a job in the away city after graduating, but was so terribly homesick that I went back to live with my parents.
While I don't regret going home, I realized two things.
First, it's not easy to re-adjust to living at home when you've been on your own and been independent. I was the proverbial "good girl" - I lived with a self-imposed curfew, never did ANYTHING my parents could be disappointed about.
Second, living away from home is not as taboo as it once was (even for girls). My parents are suprisingly supportive of my moving away (to another city) for a job opportunity. Their attitude is that if I'm in the same town as them, I live with them, but if there is a super stellar career opportunity that would make me happy, I should go for it. They wouldn't want to hold me back.
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I was away for 4 years and now I moved back in.
My parents want me to stand on my own two feet and ideally now that I have a job, want me to save and help me get my own place:vivo:. I actually want to stay at home though.
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sorry but whys it a 'white people thing' to move out after your graduated? I know *alot *of asian people moved away frm home even if they dont even go uni.
And after graduation one wud expect one to get a career and move out! Not run back to mummy and daddy.
^ And what are the laws against making a career *while *living with mummy n daddy?
I have a place close to my workplace, I just go stay there when I know no one's home otherwise I come straight home. I stayed away from them for 5 years.. but came back :)
I have a place close to my workplace, I just go stay there when I know no one's home otherwise I come straight home. I stayed away from them for 5 years.. but came back :)
so u live in 2 places?
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move back home. home will always be home. id love to spend that time with my parents after im done with my education.
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So what are the differences in reasons why men and women move back in?
Like from a girl's perspective, I would move back in cuz it's just so relaxing to be at home and be spoiled by mommy. I miss my family and town too much and it's not like my parents are overly strict or anything that I would feel oppressed if I move back in.
But what about the guys? Are your reasons the same as the girl's or do you also feel responsible to take care of the parents as well
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TLK, What the hell did I say to her???
She could say one should move out and get a career and when I said one can also make a career while living with parents, then I need to get a life??? See what I mean by WTF?? I wasn't even* trying* to provoke her or anything! Jesus!
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I did that. For all my education from K-12 , under grad , grad I lived with my parents. Then I got job in the same city so I was still living with my parents.
Only when I moved to US was I away from home.
In West people like me are called leaches . But where I come from it was the way of life and still is.
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umm u can have a career and be independent whilst living with ur parents...its not really running back to mummy and daddy...but ok. being independent is not just having ur own place.
so u live in 2 places?
Yes when my family is away I prefer staying closer to my workplace, less traffic. If they're home I don't mind the effort of waiting in traffic :(
sorry but whys it a 'white people thing' to move out after your graduated? I know *alot *of asian people moved away frm home even if they dont even go uni. And after graduation one wud expect one to get a career and move out! Not run back to mummy and daddy.
IT's definitely a white people thing, and the desis or the other asians who do that only do it cuz they think they are too cool for the desi trend or have been immersed in the white culture so much that they are more at ease with that than the desi stuff
nothing wrong with running to mummy and daddy. if you can expect them to pay for your lavish wedding, support you in buying your first home, call them up because you can't make a simple daal chawal then that's worst off than living at home, having a job and using that money to support the parents that raised you.