If someone brings a proposal from outside of family, my brothers dont want to meet them and rejects them.. This thing really annoys my mum because she does not like to force my brothers and sis in laws to come n meet the guests....
Now I'm a bit confused about your brothers. They don't want you to get married to this cousin, which I understand. But why do they also reject any other rishta that comes from outside the family? That doesn't really leave a lot of options, does it? Are they hoping for some other cousin to miraculously appear?
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My mum says that if we say no to this family then how do we know if we will get someone better? I feel like my parents are jus trying to get rid of me :(
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Tell your mum that if Allah swt sent this marriage proposal, can't He send you another one? The majority of the people on this forum are telling you not to do it - listen to them. Insha Allah you WILL get another rishta and probably more .......you'll know that HE is the one when you see him - your gut instinct will tell you. Right now your gut instinct is telling you NO NO NO and you don't want to listen to it....instead you decided to ask on this forum...and guess what? NO NO NO is all you hear. You know deep down that he's not the one....the final decision is yours.....
Remember - A leopard never changes it's spots....if he's got to an age where he's ready to be married and he's still lying - do you really BELIEVE he will stop lying after marriage? All those years of lying don't disappear overnight.
Don't get married just because you want to get away from your sis-in-laws - it might be a matter of "out of the frying pan and into the fire".
Think about it......don't rush into and don't get pressurised....
Please do not accept the proposal .. if you are depressed from now imagine what will happen once you get married and start living in that house. Please do not get into it. and men who cant keep things private from their moms specially about their wives or fiance thats the worsttttt....just say NO you are not loosing anything..
Listen to your heart! Do not force yourself into something that doesn't feel right. There will always be "but what ifs" that's life, but speak your mind and true feelings. Inshallah it will work out and someone will else will come along. If you feel Down about your other circumstances, I'm not clear on them to comment but the only person that can get you out of it is yourself. Don't be depressed, find some focus. :) don't think that'll mean much but it will be okay.
You're not happy with this at all, so don't say yes to this guy! Tell your mother and father that he has a habit of lying and you don't trust him.
By the way, if your sisters in law are trying to use you, then you should use them too. Go to them and cry and ask for their help and support in this, tell them they HAVE to convince your parents that this is a bad rishta and that you don't want to get married.
Who cares if they want you to take care of their kids right now? The next time you get a good rishta, and if you end up liking the next guy and get engaged, its not like your sisters in law can force you to stay unmarried. Ultimately the decision lies with you and your parents.
You're not happy with this at all, so don't say yes to this guy! Tell your mother and father that he has a habit of lying and you don't trust him.
By the way, if your sisters in law are trying to use you, then you should use them too. Go to them and cry and ask for their help and support in this, tell them they HAVE to convince your parents that this is a bad rishta and that you don't want to get married.
Who cares if they want you to take care of their kids right now? The next time you get a good rishta, and if you end up liking the next guy and get engaged, its not like your sisters in law can force you to stay unmarried. Ultimately the decision lies with you and your parents.