Interesting article
**HOW TO GET AN ELIGIBLE MAN TO COME AND TALK TO YOU **
You’ve seen a man you like across a crowded room - how do you get to talk to him? Well, it’s probably best not to stroll over and offer to buy him a drink.
Studies show that women who are seen as blatantly taking the initiative with men are perceived negatively. Science suggests that success is all about subtle (and usually non-verbal) clues.
Eye contact - especially when combined with a smile - is extremely important. But how much do you need to give?
In a 1985 study, researchers made an attractive woman target a man roughly 10ft away and then see what it took to get him to approach her within 10 minutes.
They tried several variations: eye contact once or several times, either alone or paired with a smile.
Men don’t just need encouragement. They need a lot of encouragement. Multiple times and in multiple ways. Even making eye contact multiple times, if that signal wasn’t accompanied by a smile, had only a modest success rate of less than 20 per cent.
To be highly successful, a woman needed to make eye contact multiple times and accompany that eye contact with a smile.
When she did this, 60 per cent of the men eventually approached her and struck up a conversation.
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‘Smile at him broadly’ was by far the most effective female technique for drawing a man’s attention in a flirting study by psychologist Monica Moore, with ‘throw him a short, darting glance’ and ‘dance alone to music’ tying for a distant second place.
For women who worry they are not attractive enough to succeed in those circumstances, there is even more good news.
The number of signals you send counts far more than how you look. According to Moore, the women who were approached the most often were not those who were the most attractive but those who signalled most frequently - women who sent out more than 35 signals an hour averaged more than four approaches an hour.
Smiling and glancing at men 35 times an hour is a lot of signal sending, particularly for the shy among us, but we never promised the mating dance was easy.
**HAVE I SEEN YOU SOMEWHERE BEFORE? **
They say familiarity breeds contempt, but that’s simply not the case where dating is concerned.
Before you say there are no eligible men in your life, take a good look at your male friends and see if any of them strike your fancy.
Men are twice as sexually attracted to female friends as women are to male friends.
To make a favourable impression on a stranger, try to bump into him as often as possible.
READ MY LIPS
Wearing lipstick may increase your chance of romance. Men’s first impression of a woman’s attractiveness has been shown to be much higher when she wears lipstick.
