this only holds true if she is still emotionally attached to him...whereas in your previous post you yourself said that she is smart because she has let go of the emoitonal attachment...if she has let go of the emotional attachment she shouldnt have trouble moving on unlike the other girls you mentioned
I agree with you on moving on in life. However, I say smart only because girls cannot get over with their first love.
At 22, most girls will not even bother looking for someone else. Usually, girls then make themselves busy in career and by the time they are 30 ish, they feel like they need to find a partner. Girls take so long to get it over with.
I think she has a strategy in life. She wants to hold on to him - because she knows very well that she will miss him still. This should not be judged as lowering standards.
I still think she is smart because she will keep him as a companion UNTIL she finds someone else to replace the void. She knows that once she gets married there will not be enough time to dwell on past.
I know of couple of girls who really could not get on with their lives. They just stopped dating, did not marry, got into career building, and all of a sudden they found themselves at age 34,35, and 36. One of the girl - will be turning 40. She has given up hope that she will have a family life of her own.
So why can't we still call the girl smart for trying to move on in life and not be stuck in a rut.
The guys who have dumped those girls are living a full life. They have wife and kids at home. Even some of those kids are turning teenagers.
You see the girls have "passed" or are in the phase where their biological clock is ticking away. Where as those guys are almost done raising their kids.
That's why I think she is smart for being well aware of the "now" situation. She knows it's temporary.