small issue

Lifestyle Relationships
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its my bhabi’s birthday in few weeks. I am confused abt if I should buy her
anything or not. On my birthday she did not bothered to buy me anything.
On my birthday she did said to me I asked your brother money to buy you something but he did not give. And a few days later we went shopping together
she did buy gifts for relatives in Pakistan, so she had enough money. She was just lying to me.
So guys what should I do?

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Re: small issue

Dont give her anything. Move on.

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You should set an higher example.

You should not go overboard but it is her birthday - a small gift (a pair of earrings) and card would do good.

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if you feel like buying her a gift buy one, if you don't then don't

Its not necessary to buy people gifts just because they gave you one or visa versa

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get her a card.

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i dont think you should bother, harsh maybe but if she cant be bothered to get you even a small gift, you shouldnt waste your time getting her anything either.

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buy her something and make sure ur bhaiyya finds out :D

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I'd be the bigger person and get her a gift...just cause she's my brother's wife!

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Re: small issue

get her something

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i would also advise you to get her something small...A simple kurta or a card and a gift certificate...rise above her :)

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Re: small issue

Very simple and basic. Do it.

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Agreed..
A card and simple earrings would be fine..

But you need to learn, if she takes advantage of you take a step back

Excuses are stupid and hers was a lame one.. .. but never place yourself in a situation where you regret something you did or didn't do..

£5/10 is nothing in the grand scheme of things, take it as you giving sadqa for your brother..

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Give her another chance. Buy her something this time only and see if she remembers to give u a gift on ur next birthday. If she dont .. then never give any gift again.

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buy her something small ... who cares

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You don't really need to behave in the same way as someone behaves towards you!

Sometimes when you act maturely in response, it lets the other person see the error of their ways.

I agree with most guppans, a small gift may be appropriate :)

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GIFTs are given by heart and not as "response" to some gift. If you dont feel like giving anything there is no point giving like you are paying off credit.

BTW, Its not necessary that if SHE did not give you anything then you respond in the same manner. I have observed overtime that people have started thinking before giving GIFTs "if that person has given me the gift only then I'll give him/her a gift". Personally I think it should be independent of any such thought.

oh and beating the drum (in front of your bro or whoever) after giving your bhabi a gift will be just as pathetic !