Mey na bohat stress wich hoon - and I need some desi mom advice. Sometimes these goris just can’t reach my dil shil - baath sahee nahee lagthi.
My son’s (ayman’s) sleeping habits are changing, rightfully so he’s turning 16 months soon inshahallah. But the problem comes into play when he goes to daycare. The little guy is used to being swaddled at home or at the very least someone laying down with him when he sleeps. Obviously he doesnt get that at school. The outcome is that he looks beat tired (so much so that I feel guiltier about leaving him at school and am considering a nanny - which I can’t afford) when I pick him up. He normally falls asleep in the car ride home; two problems with that, he wakes up cranky and won’t go back to bed at night.
I was reading up on this on the net and the solution seems to be that I should get him to go to sleep on his own at night so that he’s used to sleeping alone in daycare.
Haeeeee I feel like such a bad mum for making him sleep on his own.
Kiya karoon mey? I dont mind putting him to bed at night. I rather enjoy the alone time but I want him to rest at school.
I know the gori world shuns me for this - but we desi’s have a different flavor for raising our bacha party. Please share you’re expierences.
Summary: two part question
A) Should I be having him fall asleep on his own? both in the afternoon and night?
B) What are some desi’fied ways of doing this? I AM NOT LEAVING HIM CRYING IN THE ROOM - I don’t care how much that spoils him. sheepish grin
My daughters who are 7 and 3 still need one of us to fall asleep. I know that technically it may not be the right thing but heck, it works for us and I don’t want to deprive them of this little ritual.
The only concern I have about your son is that he isn’t sleeping at daycare so he’s not getting his much needed daytime nap. Hmmm, I seriously don’t know what to suggest but I’m sure some other working mom will. I only want to assure you that life isn’t a 100% out of the book so please do not think you are doing anything wrong by giving him all the mommyness.
well you can't even talk to a 16 month old and make him understand what you want from him. I feel sorry for your situation and hope you find a solution soon. and I'm so glad im not a working woman so I wont have to have these troubles with my kids hopefully!
don't worry too much.....if that's possible!
Noor is almost 7 and she still needs me to get to sleep.
She didn't have the same problem when she was in pre-school.....she would fall asleep okay there.
I would do my best to keep Ayman awake from the time that you pick him up to the time that he should be going to bed at night. The longer you keep him awake the more likely he is to be exhausted enough to go to sleep unattended at the daycare the next day. Just make sure that the sleep you deprive him off on the way home in the car etc, is not made up the next morning.
If he is a little tired when he arrives at daycare he will be more likely to fall asleep there.
My son is 23 months old and has been in daycare since he was 6 months old.
He did have sleeping issue in day care at first... but in few days he learned to sleep with his blanket. He takes the blanket, hugs it, plays with it, kind of chews on it and goes to sleep doing all that :)
He naps good in daycare (about 3 hours) and then goes to bed fine for us. I agree with you that I could simply not leave my son crying in the room.
So what i used to do was just sit by his Crib, give him a hig and say goodnight. and leave him in the crib. he started crying and i pciked him up as soon as he stopped crying i put him back in teh crib and said you need to sleep here. I think the first day i had to repeat this like 30 times and finally he decided to go to sleep. 2nd day i had to try it 15 times and he went to sleep. and 3rd he slept on his own.
Now after he is out of crib (i had a mini crib so he gre out when he was 15 months old) i just lay down on my bed with him with his blanket and he goes to sleep. and later on i just tranfer him to his room. which works well for me.
one thing i learned was, if they dont nap good, they have hard time sleeping at ngiht because tehy are wayyy too tired to go to sleep. the whole thing of not letting them sleep during the day because then they will be exhausted at night and sleep good did not work well for me or anyone i have talked to about it.
if sleep in the car just wake him up when you get home. the little sleep he will get in car should be good him!
My son's day care teachers have to hide his blanket till he finishes lunch. if he sees the blanket, he will not even eat and would want to go to sleep :)
I feel like such a bad mum for making him sleep on his own.