^ As long as all of you are having peaceful sleeps through the night, it should be ok Spiral.
I know of a family where h/w insist on having kids sleep on their own beds. They have 3 kids and all of them are very young. In the middle of the night, every night, one kid starts crying or come to mom and dad and then the next one wakes up and mom and dad keep runing back and forth between rooms and nether kids, nor parents get proper sleep. They are almost always tired and kids are also cranky as they had a disturbed sleep.
My mindset is that instead of following rules, we should focus on having a good/uninterrupted sleep - which is good for everyone next day.
I'll have to go with what Khawa said. My son sleeps with me on my bed and my husband sleeps in the guest room. I would do anything for my son to sleep in his crib. I tried for weeks but he just hated the idea. I would really want me and husband to sleep together. I loveeeeeee my son but I think its just better for him to sleep in his crib which is placed in our own bedroom. He just won't!
Have you tried moving the crib into your room?
Try getting a co sleeper....one of those cribs where one side is down and attached to your bed. Have your son sleep there and once he gets comfortable move the side up but keep the crib right next to your bed. A week or so later move the crib a little further away, and keep doing that until the crib is where you want in your room.
If you have bummer pads get rid of them, this way he can still see you through the bars of the crib.
Toddler beds are low in height and you can use guard rails, you can put it against the wall and put rails on the other side.
Everyone knows thier own unique situation and they do what works best for them so I dont think there is a right or wrong here. Your first one is not even 2 yet, he is not a very big kid.
I have 2 kids and we all sleep in the same room because this is what works for me.
My son sleeps in his toddler bed which is placed right next to our bed. My daughter sleeps with us in our bed.
Do what both of you are comfortable doing and dont worry about right or wrong.
Run n save yourself!! Go n buy a toddler bed n if u cant buy a toddler bed... I suggest u build one!!! My husband melted n let the twinkies sleep in our bed and once he was ready to part with them, they weren't!! So now after we changed our canopy bed set to a japanese platform so they won't fall off, he sleeps on the floor n they smush me between them like im peanutbutter AND jelly!! Sometime i dream of dreams where I am sleeping on a bed alone an no feet are in my mouth and no tiny fingers are scratching me to make sure mommy dearest is nearby!!
rabia79...your post literally made me LOL :). my 10 month old sleeps with us in the bed, which is ok for now...but i'm worried about it becoming like your situation
Thank you guys, thing is what rabia79 said, I have seen kids do this once the parents give in that is it. Parents can never be together and I have seen that first hand, kids never leave the room. I grew up in such a household and while husbands appreciate mother putting kids before them at some point of time the couple needs and misses their own time.
Right now Jr. screams bloody murder just when my hubby comes and stands next to me. If we are sitting next to each other he will scream and pull and push each one of us till one of us gives in and goes and sits somewhere else. I am all for parents being providers of comfort and security but I have seen too many couples pushed apart because of keeping kids first. (Please do not crucify me). I would like Jr. to get into the habit of seeing his mom and dad sitting next to each other.
Jr. is crazy about his dad and can't stand hubby holding another baby or standing close to me, I would like to separate him in his own bed (but in the same room as us) so that when the new baby comes Jr. can allow hubby to hold the baby or take care of the baby.
^ My cousins kids are like that too (about not wanting the parents to be together). I think it's a phase a lot of kids go through. I don't think it's necessarily connected to the sleep issue. (These kids sleep in their own rooms and put themselves to sleep)
Sahar we have kids in our family who are 10 years old and the girl just doesn't like it when her parents are together and one of her younger sister is the same way. The younger one is 4.5, if it is a phase then these kids that I have seen have still not gotten out of it and to be honest that scares me.
Sahar we have kids in our family who are 10 years old and the girl just doesn't like it when her parents are together and one of her younger sister is the same way. The younger one is 4.5, if it is a phase then these kids that I have seen have still not gotten out of it and to be honest that scares me.
thats not normal or usual per se- i honestly wouldn't stress about this.
you will be fine and i'm sure jr. will grow out of this phase. a friend of mine has a 3 year old who was the same when he was around 2 and he outgrew it.
rabia79...your post literally made me LOL :). my 10 month old sleeps with us in the bed, which is ok for now...but i'm worried about it becoming like your situation
That bundle of joy needs to move into his own bed and since he is only 10 months, only his actions can tell u how much he dislikes the change and in a few days he might even forget all about it. Like others have said, put him in a crib next to you and slowly transition him in his new sleeping space. Once he is used to sleeping without you, soon you can even move him to his room. Do not fall for the puppy dog sad eyes, do it before he cant verbally hold a grudge against you. If i do something that my almost three year olds don't like, I am forrun accused by two tiny dictators as " U baad baby mamma u baad baaby"
yups and I was on the phone with a friend today and her sister has a 14 year old and a 5 year old (both girls) who sleep with her in her bed. The dad sleeps in the guest room. The husband now shows constant frustration at this arrangement (They lost a child in between these two so dad allowed the 14 year old to sleep with them).
It works out great at the moment but not teaching your kids to let parents be alone can get frustrating for the partners. I think it is very important to have some alone time in the house as well.
I remember midget used to hate the sight of mr sitting next to me or being even close to me.... Initially it was cute but when he strted hitting mr and throwing tantrums...we went loco on him. Ok well not toally but ya.. Were strict and used to tell him off aswell as explained that its not nice what he does, caught on.
I swear hese kids nowadays do all this so they remain ' the only child'! Sleep witht folks, dont let them sit together... Tsk tsk... So scheming!
