Re: Skeletons in the Closet
Shaz 1, I understand that fair doesn't necessarily mean equal. And in some matters (such as inheritance, for example) men receive a greater share of the property than women do. And men are allowed 4 wives whereas women can't have multiple spouses. I GET THAT!
What I'm referring to is THOSE Islamic laws which are the same for both genders in Islam. For example, premarital sex and drinking are forbidden for BOTH genders. But desi parents are more strict with their daughters than they are with their sons when it comes to such matters. For example, Desi soceity would look down on a woman who smokes.......or drinks.........but not so much on a desi guy who does these things. In desi soceity.......when a woman is divorced.......it is usually assumed that SHE MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING wrong in the marriage.......she MUST BE the guilty one.
Your argument is a weak one, Shaz. A real weak one. To say that we should simply accept that this is the way the world works is defeatist thinking. Not only that........such views only further perpetuate the double standards in our society. The Prophet SAWS had to preach to a JAAHIL society that was set in it's way. He didn't fold his arms and say, "This is the way world is, so just accept it. I ain't preaching no message. I ain't gonna correct absurd beliefs. I ain't gonna educate the wayward people cuz that's just how they are. I ain't gonna prevent injustices from happening. Because that's just the way the world is."
If that's your mentality..........then why bother? Why bother trying to even make a difference on an individual level?
There's a hadith that as Muslims when we see something wrong taking place.......we should try to stop it with our hands. IF we're too weak to do that........we complain to someone who can do something about it. If we can't even do that........we should at least pray for things to get better......and this is the weakest level of faith.
^But to say, "Meh......that's just the way the world is"...........that's absurd and DANGEROUS thinking. Such mentality is the **BREEDING GROUND **for societal ills and injustices.
YES........Allah will punish men AND women for sins when they die. BUT..........Allah and Islam has placed responsibilities upon us. A ruler is responsible for his country. A father....as the head of his household........is responsible for his family. And parents are responsible for raising their children PROPERLY.
Family is the ROOT of society. When parents themselves raise their children with DOUBLE STANDARDS............that's when **FITNA **and all kinds of SINS run rampant in society.
^ So.........to say that Allah will deal with us......meanwhile let's just accept the world for the way it is.......IS WRONG. Because Alalh will hold society responsible for not only perpetuating gunnah but also for NOT trying to stop it.