I see it all the time in boys my age, they say they can have gfs and sex before marriage cos 'it's different' and it shocks me that in this day and age Mums and Dads (have to admit it does seem to be more Mums tho) that are propagating these ideas and attitudes. I've lost count the number of time non-Muslims have asked me how come the boys are allowed to get away with stuff but girls aren't. If it was worse for girls to commit zina etc in Islam how come the punishment is exactly the same??? I wish the Mosques (cos the parents on the whole are no good) would teach this stuff and snuff out this retarded bit of our culture.
Ditto.........Deeba! It's because it seems we have two versions of Islam running around. And it seems that our desi society might pray 5 times a day and practice the 5 pillars of Islam..................but when it comes to fundamental principles and views...........they choose to follow their own Islam.
In my opinion, I find it hard to sympathize with parents who establish a disparity between the upbringing of their sons and daugthers and then complain when things blow up in their faces.