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But she didnt. She found out now. Whats the next move?
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But she didnt. She found out now. Whats the next move?
I believe if she had found out after marriage, she would have taken steps like talking to him,etc, so I think she should try finding such a solution, instead of taking a step like breaking the marriage.
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Jaanwar it’s nice to see you back 
Can’t everyone have good sex? I mean by practice and stuff (I can’t believe I just said that). I mean there are so many online sources, as well as sex counseling (which they can go for after marriage), that ahem Indian book ahem, etc.
Like Stops said, will she be testing sex with the next guy too? I presume NO, so that means they both need to stop being so awkward with each other (which I just don’t understand how could be possible after such a long relationship) and talk about each others needs and wants. Maybe they can check out the online resources together, and you know, reenact?
Now this is coming from an unmarried chick…soooo 
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No you’re right. It can be awkward at first but then it gets better. Bas.
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Well..i must say your friend is in need. What your friend needs to do is to give it a time..don't make rush decision. As Gaia said..there are so many ways of exploring fantasies again. May be he is little nervous, and something is in his mind which is bothering him. May be for him, she is not attracted anymore.
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^what Sara said.
And secondly, I think she’s emphasising a bit too much on the sexuality part which probably made both of them awkward and the first time being awkward as it mostly is ended up being plain bad. I am also thinking some sort of guilt would be attached to the whole encounter (why wouldn’t it, they aren’t married) so naturally it didnt turn out that well.
And also like stoppit said is she going to venture into a sex test with every other guy until she has found the right one to step into marriage? And as for this guy, they both have been together for five years and are in love…am sure chances of having sexual satisfaction from somebody one knows and is in love with are much better than hoping to have a super sparky physical relationship with a stranger?
This seems a very naive reason to quit..esp if she’s scared she might be pregnant and while the whole family is preparing for the wedding. Oh Lord what is the world coming to 
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Whats the point of getting advise now?
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i think cos she isnt married. the preggers point will be known for sure in four five days
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her hormones have started playing games..she is pregnant indeed.
her feelings have changed.hormone play.
p.s:iv noticed this...this phase of 22 till 24.girls get wierd.and rebellious.true.seriously.
you should notice that too.
teenage till 21...everything is easy..she goes with the flow...22 till 24...she starts thinking and questioning!
i guess after 5years of being faithful to one person,dont lose it all to a temporary feeling.
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I don't like your friends.
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u are a friend
I don't like your friends.
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I know.
Bring the other friend to senses and tell her to chup chap marry the poor fella. Seriously. I'm angry at her.
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i suggest a second test drive so that she can be really make sure she doesnt want to buy this car - rather than regretting for the rest of her life for the wrong decision
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her hormones have started playing games..she is pregnant indeed. her feelings have changed.hormone play.
p.s:iv noticed this...this phase of 22 till 24.girls get wierd.and rebellious.true.seriously. you should notice that too. teenage till 21...everything is easy..she goes with the flow...22 till 24...she starts thinking and questioning!
i guess after 5years of being faithful to one person,dont lose it all to a temporary feeling.
I was gonna say that too ... :)
Thanks for pointing it out ...
That is why marriage is advised before we have sex .... it is because there will always be good times and not so good times, times of regret and times of stress and times of fun and games ... Part of her might be afraid of becoming pregnant and getting found out and part of her might be getting thoughts about what others might think and she might be blaming him and/or herself and altogether she might get the feeling as though it is all wrong ... which morally it was ... but to make it right ... she should go ahead with the marriage and curb all those thoughts that will make her bad situation worse ... think about how it will be for an unmarried girl to be pregnant ??? To me that is far worse than getting married to the man who is responsible for that ... If it has lasted 5 years and they got physical they should still be able to get there again ...
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Ok to clarify they have been bonking like bunnies (can I say that ? Is that permitted? ) since the engagement in June.
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ok, so i think she should take some time to THINK. leaving the guy just because she felt her needs were not fulfilled the first time is just so selfish.
Edit:: ok now i dont know what to say lol
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I think she should leave him.
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Ok, so it didn't happen only once?
Ok to clarify they have been bonking like bunnies (can I say that ? Is that permitted? ) since the engagement in June.
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I think its natural for couples to be a little out of sync in the beginning. They are still learning each other in that way, and its important to discuss their needs in an open and mature conversation. When I got married (had a love marriage, so the chemistry was there from the beginning), we hadnt done anything before so it was a little "weird". I wouldnt say it was bad, but I just didnt know what to expect and we hadnt discussed anything either, so each of our needs werent known. 4 months is not long enough to sync your needs, especially if they arent discussing what each of them are expecting, or what each of them like. Sometimes its an awkward discussion to have (even if you have been together for a long time, some people just arent comfortable discussing their sexual needs), but if she really does want to save this relationship, she needs to open up to her partner about what satisfies her and what she needs from him. It will get better as they get more comfortable together, and learn what they want from each other. And sometimes, if you cant say what you want, it helps to show them what you want.
Also, please please please tell your friend to be diligent about birth control. Even as a married woman I am diligent about birth control, because we just arent ready to have children yet (and Im a few years older than 22 - LOL), and she is not even married yet.