Skanky or Practical

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Re: Skanky or Practical

@saimab33

I think its natural for couples to be a little out of sync in the beginning. They are still learning each other in that way, and its important to discuss their needs in an open and mature conversation. When I got married (had a love marriage, so the chemistry was there from the beginning), we hadnt done anything before so it was a little “weird”. I wouldnt say it was bad, but I just didnt know what to expect and we hadnt discussed anything either, so each of our needs werent known. 4 months is not long enough to sync your needs, especially if they arent discussing what each of them are expecting, or what each of them like. Sometimes its an awkward discussion to have (even if you have been together for a long time, some people just arent comfortable discussing their sexual needs), but if she really does want to save this relationship, she needs to open up to her partner about what satisfies her and what she needs from him. It will get better as they get more comfortable together, and learn what they want from each other. And sometimes, if you cant say what you want, it helps to show them what you want.

Also, please please please tell your friend to be diligent about birth control. Even as a married woman I am diligent about birth control, because we just arent ready to have children yet (and Im a few years older than 22 - LOL), and she is not even married yet.

This is such a wonderful reply! Thank you! I might just quote u word for word!!!