Situation

[Paheli00]

Re: Situation

@mahika

Few days ago, my mother asked again how things are and I told her wohi same usual fights and she told me that since so many other proposals have been rejected and I have stuck around with him for so long her, my sister, my khalas cannot think of anyone else other thn him for my future.

Unfortunately your mother, sister, and khalas are not marrying him and will not have to share the rest of their life living with this guy. YOU are! So even though its great that they like him…if you have doubts, then YOUR feelings are more important.

@mahika

he changed his habits but still a stubborn, egoistic man who thinks he is always right, and whats certain things his way when in return he does not want on him as he “isnt doing anything wrong”

At one point I did feel like saying yes to a rishta (not yes for marriage but yes for the baat to agay barna, but even after thinking so much I couldnt say yes because even though there was minimal contact I couldn’t be disloyal to him in this way.

1. His personality will not change. He will always be like this and the fights will always continue. In fact, there will be more stress after marriage as you two begin a new life and once kids enter into the picture. So if anything…the fights will increase not decrease.

2. Your heart is not 100% committed to him and even in your brain, there is a part of you that realizes that he may not be the best choice for you. B/C otherwise, you wouldn’t be confused or even consider saying “yes” to another rishta. You two have been together for 4 YEARS. Given that his graduation is a few months away…forget bast pakki, there is no reason as to why his mother can’t just meet your mother just to talk.

Your relationship with this guy isn’t rosy…I don’t see any reason for you not to explore other good rishtas. Even after 4 YEARS this guy has not made a formal commitment to you. There is nothing that prevents him from walking away from this. Meanwhile you’re saying “no” to other rishtas which could be a GREAT match for you.