Zazzy,
I'm the oldest in my family. And contrary to my posts......I'm actually a big kid...joking around, goofing off, being silly. My sister is the youngest and more serious. And when I bug her by being loud, joking around, playing pranks on her.........she sometimes get irritated, lol. And then when I become quiet..........that's when SHE tries to get my attention by being silly.
We all have our different personalities. Your sister is more serious than you whereas you're more easy going and playful. It's no big deal. And the reason why she tries to get your attention when you become depressed is because she's not used to seeing you so quiet and she wants to try to bring the relationship back to normal again.
I'm sorry about your dad. But you have to understand that your sister doesn't want to get rid of you. Her and your dad just have more reserved personalities, that doesn't mean they don't love you. My sister and I.........we are such opposites, we are like NIGHT and DAY. It's normal for us to get on our parents or siblings nerves sometimes, it happens, trust me. And the fact that your sister is trying to cheer you up by being silly is a sign that she loves you and wants you to stop being mad at her.
I also get the vibe that maybe your sister is a bit jealous that you and your mom are connecting more. And maybe she wishes that she could have that same kind of connection with your mom. ** I have an idea.** Try hanging out with your sister. Spend some time doing an activity that she might like. You both can go watch a movie, go shopping, do each others hair/nails. Spend some time talking to her. If she's a more serious person.....then tone down the joking while you are with her and connect with her on a more serious level.
Another idea......when you and your mom are together........why don't you calmly invite your sister to join you both. And help your sister out by bringing up topics that she finds interesting and help your mom and your sister.....start talking. You three can be together....and you can be like the facilitator who helps bring your sister and your mom closer. ** And another idea**.....you can try to talk to your mom privately about this matter. And maybe your mom will try to connect with your sister so that she doesn't feel left out.
You didn't "waste" any time, Zazzy. Don't worry.....there is no age limit for going back to college and finishing your education. People do it all the time. They take breaks from education for personal reasons and then return later to complete their degree. It can be done. I took a year off and then went back to get my master's. And now I'm thinking of taking a few more classes. You can go back to school and finish, you're still young. And your worked to help earn money for your family because you love them.......and that is no waste. And this challenging experience in life has made you a stronger person.
redvelve seriously you come out with the best points na dvice on earth! thanks so much for understanding and bringin out the right points and yes i will try to come up to your advice for sure! and yes now that you mentioned it i think i dont have a age limit to education at all and yes i did help out my family when they needed! thanks againn soo much i got some gr8 points to work onn