Sister in laws

Lifestyle Relationships
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Good luck, Sonia. I have no SIL advice yet as I have no SILs. I suspect my future SIL may be the same or worse as yours... :(

Let us know how th Iftaari goes.

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Stop with the defensive act already, its doing more harm than good

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I actually need advice too. So I don't have SILs but I consider the people who arranged us-my husbands phupi's to be my inlaws. His parents passed away some time ago and so he really considers his phupi's to be his family. The problem is that their kids really don't have any sort of respect for him and as a result don't care much about me. They are nice to us when we visit them but that's the extent of it. At first I really tried to get hang out with them but they never wanted to do anything and would just kind of ignore it when I brought it up. So after a while I just stopped saying anything to them about hanging out. Both my husband and I are way more qualified than most of their kids but the kids don't really think we're cool enough. My biggest bone of contention is my wedding as we only had the nikkah so we have to plan the rukusati. Well, everyone on my side is like mad crazy and happy for the wedding but his side could care less, which just really hurts. At this point I dont want a significant relationship with them but I just want that image of the cool mami and not the seedi saadi girl. Suggestions?

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Stop trying. Let things work out for themselves.

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afsos - I dont have any SIL :(

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i respecet sister our kiil respect sister

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My advice may be stupid as I don't have any SILs, but I think you should continue being nice to them in-a-non-doormat way, stop trying to become their best friend, use the right kind of body language, not hostile or defensive, try to make sure they can't get you down all the time, making you cry, and be confident. Maybe they might eventually realise that you aren't a bad peson, you're not their enemy, and you are basically family. You are gonna have to get this to work, because if you don't you might end up regretting falling in love with your fiance.