Re: single parents
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the heck is wrong with some of u ppl
Ideally it would be nice for a child to have both parents who are sound-minded and nurturing individuals. But that isn't always the case.
As a teacher, I've seen a mix in my students. I've seen students who are stable and strong and being raised by a single parent who is strong and is a good provider and role model. And I've seen kids who are messed up (self-esteem issues, etc) because BOTH of their married parents are messed up.
Also, in a marriage......where one parent is dysfunctional.....and the other parent is normal but too weak or passive to do anything. Such a union can take its toll on the children.....they may grow up emulating their parents' negative examples. In cases like these, one parent can be better than a dysfunctional team.
Absolutely.
I actually know of children who have single parents and most of them seem just fine. I also know of married couples whose children seem to lack self-esteem and confidence.
Some single parents do such a marvelous job you would never know this child came from a single-parent household. Some married couples are so self-involved you would think their kids came from a single parent home.
Its like someone else said already...all in the upbringing.
single parents kids can some times be insecure!
So can children who were raised with two happily married parents.
The generalizations in this thread are sad, yet amusing.
Re: single parents
Wow, what were some of you thinking when you posted here? Generalizations galore.
..on the other hand I have ALSO seen both parents alive and well...with kids who are dheet beyond words! Granted everyone is allowed a rebellious phase but this phase is a permanent one for these kids.
Like a lot of people have mentioned, it's all about the upbringing. A single mother could have enough confidence to be a mother AND a father to the kid. Raise the kid to have a good education, good morals and an overall good life.
Re: single parents
very difficult to raise,by the time they are teen ager grand parents are not there to look after them,single parent also become cyco and very difficult to control them at this age
specially when children comes to know what went wrong with our parents relationship
Re: single parents
From my personal experience I have found that single fathers find it tricky to raise their children. Single mothers, no problems at all.
How's that for a can worms. :)
Hmmm..let me tell you my story..My mother and father came to Pak after 1975...i was 1.5 years old back in 1990 when my father passed away due to kidney problem..My mother's and father's family resides in India.Can you imagine a women at the age of 30 years left alone with her children without any one's support ? No one was here..No nani,taya ,chacha ,mamu..no family relative !..my mother was all alone here ! After the death of my father,she joined a school as a teacher.My mother faced some of the biggest hurdles of life ,saw the evil faces of people,saw how the label "yateem" affects a child ,saw how the absence of a male bread earner can potentially decrease your chances in life to get ahead,saw how the society sees a person with out a husband and i saw those days in which my mother had to take loans from people in neighborhood to keep the home running....BUT BUT...she conquered all these bad phases of life..I have never ever seen a woman so brave in my life...she lived because for us(her children)..People who are left in a condition like hers develop psychological problems and get to face really ugly face of life but Allah was with us all along..Today she gets to see her successful children and a happy home!
It was really really difficult in the start i tell you.But what ever Allah has written will happen no matter how the world will react and a belief that everything happens for a reason is the biggest relaxing pill ever created for mankind ! :)
Hmmm..let me tell you my story..My mother and father came to Pak after 1975...i was 1.5 years old back in 1990 when my father passed away due to kidney problem..My mother's and father's family resides in India.Can you imagine a women at the age of 30 years left alone with her children without any one's support ? No one was here..No nani,taya ,chacha ,mamu..no family relative !..my mother was all alone here ! After the death of my father,she joined a school as a teacher.My mother faced some of the biggest hurdles of life ,saw the evil faces of people,saw how the label "yateem" affects a child ,saw how the absence of a male bread earner can potentially decrease your chances in life to get ahead,saw how the society sees a person with out a husband and i saw those days in which my mother had to take loans from people in neighborhood to keep the home running....BUT BUT...she conquered all these bad phases of life..I have never ever seen a woman so brave in my life...she lived because for us(her children)..People who are left in a condition like hers develop psychological problems and get to face really ugly face of life but Allah was with us all along..Today she gets to see her successful children and a happy home! It was really really difficult in the start i tell you.But what ever Allah has written will happen no matter how the world will react and a belief that everything happens for a reason is the biggest relaxing pill ever created for mankind ! :)
:) Mashallah.
very difficult to raise,by the time they are teen ager grand parents are not there to look after them,**single parent also become cyco **and very difficult to control them at this age specially when children comes to know what went wrong with our parents relationship
Wow ! what a nice name to give to single parents.
Wow ! what a nice name to give to single parents.
It doesnt seem the posted meant to label single parents, but perhaps just express that single parents with no support can end up very frustrated with their situations, and in turn affect the children.
Hmmm..let me tell you my story..My mother and father came to Pak after 1975...i was 1.5 years old back in 1990 when my father passed away due to kidney problem..My mother's and father's family resides in India.Can you imagine a women at the age of 30 years left alone with her children without any one's support ? No one was here..No nani,taya ,chacha ,mamu..no family relative !..my mother was all alone here ! After the death of my father,she joined a school as a teacher.My mother faced some of the biggest hurdles of life ,saw the evil faces of people,saw how the label "yateem" affects a child ,saw how the absence of a male bread earner can potentially decrease your chances in life to get ahead,saw how the society sees a person with out a husband and i saw those days in which my mother had to take loans from people in neighborhood to keep the home running....BUT BUT...she conquered all these bad phases of life..I have never ever seen a woman so brave in my life...she lived because for us(her children)..People who are left in a condition like hers develop psychological problems and get to face really ugly face of life but Allah was with us all along..Today she gets to see her successful children and a happy home! It was really really difficult in the start i tell you.But what ever Allah has written will happen no matter how the world will react and a belief that everything happens for a reason is the biggest relaxing pill ever created for mankind ! :)
aww ur story brought tears to my eyes..my story is quite similar but with lots of twists..hehe
Wow ! what a nice name to give to single parents.
Well, when cyco is spelled as such....it can't be taken seriously, LOL. Agree with Afro, the poster seems to be referring to frustration and we can get lax in language sometimes.
It all depends upon upbringing. Can't apply stereotypes to every individual when we don't know their personality, their parenting style, or the reasons that led to being a single parent, etc. As mentioned before sometimes kids of single parents can turn out stronger and more secure than those raised by a pair of parents.
Also, no parent is perfect. Even with all the parenting books out there....the inconsistencies of human nature will often times transcend their recommendations. No child is perfect either. I think the challenges you encounter....and getting through them....can make parents and children stronger.