As many of you who have been reading my writing for the past nearly 10 years know, I come with lots of problems.
One problem is that I keep bumping into successful, educated, NICE, moral, honorable girls (no, they’re not money obsessed, just because they have a job. 
), and they all have the same problem. They are single and are having difficulty finding guys who are understanding of their careers and their requests for an independent life.
Every time I get together with them, it is one story after another of bad rishtas - where there was some problem or the other during negotiations and they didn’t go through with it.
And invariably, I am expected to help them find guys.
First of all, I don’t have time to find a boy for you. If I did, he’d be mine, thanks.
Secondly, I fear that if I introduce them to someone I do know, and things don’t work out - I’ll be blamed for introducing them to a bad person.
Third, if I do pass on a rishta option to them, and the guy has something wrong with him, I’ll be accused of keeping good rishtas for myself and passing on the bad ones to my friends.
I really don’t feel like being caught up in all that, so all I do is listen to their complaints.
And even that I need a break from because it’s not like I’m not going through the same crap. So, only so much listening that I can do.
I do care for these women - they’re good women - and they deserve to meet people and it sucks that every time they meet a guy they’re told all kinds of stupid things like “you need to be home by 2” or “I’m looking for someone who will cook fresh parathas every morning from scratch, because my mom does that for me” or “I’ve had about 6 sexual partners, but you’ve never had a bf have you??” (all true stories)
My question: In cases of friends looking for proposals, do you help them out or do you stay out of it, for fear of being slammed if the proposals don’t work out?
