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na express kero to the girl is snobbish and stuck-up
approach kero or give a friendly hint and she becomes too bold or cheap :p
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^ Eggjackly
Most guys would vouch with that, i.e. they do not like it and find it cheap, but personally I think a woman should be expressive. Atually, that's one of the distinctions they have, over men; being better in expressing themselves. Why should they be masking one of their greatest qualities?
Agreed
na express kero to the girl is snobbish and stuck-up
approach kero or give a friendly hint and she becomes too bold or cheap :p
^ Eggjackly
It's not about expressing, it's about being the first one to approach and propose.
It's in ur own interest, if you are comfortable with rejection in such a situation then I would say go ahead.
It's easier for guys to take rejection as compared to girls.
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I dont know if I agree with that…Ive seen grown men cry.
Im just wondering if a girl decides to follow her heart and talk to a guy…why would she be cheap? And then men complain about why women play games…its because of these mixed judgements we’re subjected to.
Im not trying to attack you Scarface…just dont agree with this theory of your’s. I am an educated woman…born and brought up in the US. I dont have a problem striking a conversation with a total stranger…but do you think its fair for a woman’s natural human instinct to be judged so harshly? That she is cheap if she likes a guy and decides to have a normal conversation with him rather than flutter her eyelashes and play the “come hither” game? Isnt that cheaper?
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^Hazrat Khadija RA proposed marriage to the Prophet SAWS. So as far as religion is concerned, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
I only know of 2 girls who made the first move....one was a desi...and she ended up married to the guy. And the other is my friend...she's White...and she had been with her BF for several months..she wanted to settle down...he was wishy-washy about it....so she actually got him a ring....took him out somewhere to a picturesque location...and proposed. Girl's got guts! He said yes...and I believe they've been married for 2 years now. While there are exceptions, I get the feeling that most guys prefer to do the bigger tasks like asking out and proposing themselves....but appreciate/may even need some subtle hints from the girl that the interest is being reciprocated.
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I think if you see/meet someone that you think is interesting, you should definitely not feel shy in going up to them and talking to them. Forget marriage and all. Just go and make friends. Rest will take care of itself.
And if a guy gets threatened by that...oh well. Not much you can do. And you probably don't belong with that sort of person anyway.
i have witness this quite a lot that if some girl talks highly about some guy, then almost every girl in her group either talks good about him or either start liking him. i know its a "shugal" for them but sometimes guy is even below average in terms of looks and personality wise.
so if the guy wants to know about intensity of girl's involvement, ask her friends that what do they think about him. lol
kher the facts remain their that its a men world and no matter how smoothly you plan to approach any guy, its all in ALLAH SWT's hand, and We end up getting the body of someone we like but the soul of someone we hate.
You are mixing things here. What I said was in a different context. It’s not about walking up to a guy and starting a conversation, it’s about expressing your romantic interest to a stranger.
Ok, I accept “cheap” is a harsh word that I used. I’m sorry for that.
And what I said was only my opinion, you shouldn’t take it on yourself.
The opinion below is somehow what I also meant to say:
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Listen I’m single and ready to mingle. 
Anyone interested, please contact me. 
Vaise, you desis are such bores. Every time I try to go up to a desi person and start a conversation, if its a girl, chances are its like pulling out teeth, and if its a boy, chances are he thinks i want to get into his pants.
Where is the middle ground?? 
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^Try a gay guy
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PCG kahi se to dhoond lo aap mingling kay liye koi :no:
PCg proves it, all desis in the UK are better than the ones in Amercia 
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Oh please, do not label the whole of amreeka like that… PCG is in the wrong state 
I TOLD her to come to VA, she ignored me 
So, I know a lot of single girls who are looking for potential suitors.
The thing is, when you know arranged marriage is not for you...what are your options?
What other ways can you meet people?
And MEN...do you find it okay for a girl to approach YOU as opposed to you approaching THEM?
No issues with that, why should there be any?
Begum was the one who initiated our interactions and approached me.
as far as venues for meeting people, that varies by location, why type of people you are looking for, how outgoing you are and whether you are solo and new in a place or familiar with a place and have friends etc etc.
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Forget real life, at least make an effort and approach the person you like at Gupshup.
Forget real life, at least make an effort and approach the person you like at Gupshup.
man with a plan, i did ..in another thread and you ignored me so here goes again
I LoVe yOu mAn
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PCG you have two people right there ready to mingle
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Love doesn't cut it these days.
Just a humble advice.
Try a different approach.
It is not about pulling someone’s teeth out.
And for the boys…Try men sometime. I mean grown up men, over your age.