I have this question for the aalim faazil moderator of this forum that has been bothering me (the question, ie) for a long time.
Why is it that when it comes to women, sinful and prohibited seem more attractive? I mean, Sikhnis and Qadiani women attract me like magnets. Every time I see a Sikhni or a Qadiani woman, I go ‘ooooohn’ (or utter more meaningful words like ‘woof woof’) but when it comes to Muslim girls, I hardly notice them.
Is it weird or there is something logical to it? Is something wrong with me? Why is it that I like to spend more time in a Goordawara or in one of those Qadiani conventions than in a mosque? I know it can’t simply be the food. Is my Imaan in danger as well? Please shed some light.
I go 'ooooohn' (or utter more meaningful words like 'woof woof') but when it comes to Muslim girls, I hardly notice them.
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Brotheranay Azizam Roman Mian
Perhaps you subconsciously, are aware that, if you go 'woof woof' at a Muslim Sister, She will go meowwwwwwww and claw at your face.
What a great question. Unfortunately once we go down this route we are going to hear from the women as well which will probably be a painful experience. Still, you live and learn.
I don't know about sinful. Sikhnis? I dunno...there was one at chool. Qadianis? No experience of that. When I hear that Canadian accent is has a funny effect on me. Like when Hayaa posted that song in the voice forum. I was going to reply to say what a lovely song it was but I swear my fingers couldn't stop shaking.
Roman, I have heard that it is not only Sikh and Qadiani women..you are also attracted to Sikh and Qadiani guys. Which kind of balances out. Which also means that it is not only your imaan which is in khatra but you should worry about other belongings also.
Nothing impresses me more than a beautiful Pakistani punjaban speaking ThaiTh punjabi....on few occasions it has shaken more than my fingers, xtreme. but unfortunately I have not yet met any, except some Internet Paris or occasional bump at a desi store, in an open invironment like work, party etc which makes me paranoid whether it is only my imagination or they do really exist.
[This message has been edited by ChannMahi (edited August 22, 2001).]
Omigod, what have i done
O God please o please pardon me for this sin
I swear i wont ever ever give Roman urls of sites where he can check out girlz
I dont know what happened
one moment we were checking out all the Hot Chicks together
the next thing i know he posts this
Its all my fault :-(
[This message has been edited by Anchal (edited August 22, 2001).]
Yeh jo minority haine Parsi,Jew,Bohra,Khoja,Sikhnri,qadiani ,are just “different” so some curiosity some may be deliberate atempt on there part to tantalize,flirt ,tease can be responsible ,otherwise they are just as variable in all aspect as any predominant race.IMHO.
I have seen them all furtunately too closely,to prefer my own(not that they are worse but neither any better)
Yeh jo minority haine Parsi,Jew,Bohra,Khoja,Sikhnri,qadiani ,are just “different” so some curiosity some may be deliberate atempt on there part to tantalize,flirt ,tease can be responsible ,otherwise they are just as variable in all aspect as any predominant race.IMHO.
I have seen them all furtunately too closely,to prefer my own(not that they are worse but neither any better)
I think Rom raises a very good point, I tend to agree that whatever is forbidden for various reasons appeals to one. E.g., Sharab has a totally different significance in Urdu poetry than it is in English. Even in the praise-the-lord context, Wine is very metaphysical. What I don’t appreciate in Rom’s inquiry is that he has subconsciously singled out Sikhnis and Qadyanis girls. I agree with Chann, that all Punjabi girls are very attractive regardless of their belief system.
No offense to anyone, but I find Blondes very boring, and it has nothing to do with their Northern Europeanness, but more to do with their state of mind. I find the Mediterranean women very attractive, and by the way, 13 of the 20 or so Med countries are Muslims, so it is not that I am attracted to them on religious grounds, it is just that the calm water of the Med have a very tranquilizing affect on the people who live there, and I like that tranquility.
I think, Rom will re-consider his views about being attracted towards what is forbidden, and will go for whatever is available.
Pathari Yaara...don't pay attention to the Blondes argument, it is only
pretentiousness on my part just to refute Rom. I like em all, and don’t’ you ever tell that to any Dutch chick that I said that.
nah Ahmadi, forbidden it is. And you can't blame me, I'm the son of Adam and Eve. I inherited it by all means. I want to have my apple and eat it too.
You tell me, you never found those Shia women wearing those dark, black dresses attractive? I remember back in Pakistan, having a Shia'ni for neighbour was like a matter of pride among the guys. By God, they look different, smell different, and pose a differentiating effect to the rest of senses.
It's not about anything physical. It's about the aura these women carry. It's the same about a newly wed woman vs not-so-newly-wed woman (ok alright, bad example, they both are attractive). But won't you agree having an affair (under all the dangerous propositions) with a married woman is more exciting than a single woman? Why? Because it more sinful and forbidden.
Pathari Yaara...don't pay attention to the Shia women argument, it is only
pretentiousness on my part just to refute Ahmadi. I like em all, and don’t you ever tell that to any Dutch chick that I said that.
Rom, I don’t know what to say except that whatever you said makes sense (although I hate to admit it). However, I don’t buy your argument of having an affair with married women vs. the non-married ones. Firstly married women are not stupid to have it become known, and single women are smart enough to keep it covert as well. You’ve got to give credit where it is due. My philosophy has always been that they need is twice as bad as you do. Infact, the joke is on you! Have you ever asked a Shianee or a Qadiyanee girl if it is not "twice"as exciting for them to see you vs. someone of their own background? I guess, you have not.
Ahmadi, forget the friggin' covertness. That doesn't matter. What's more difficult is more pleasing - simple as that. What stops us thinking about it is our code of decency or morality but wherever there is restrained voluptuousness, there is attraction.
I don't know about Qadiani women (why would I make friends with you if I already knew that?) but Shia'nis will always go for love. Everything is either black or white for them. And they would go for black as long as they know that's what they want - if not then they would stick with the white (or black, figuratively speaking).
Now coming back to the topic from women's point of view. I'm persume given the free will, desi women will be attracted towards Whites, Blacks, or Hispanics (etc) with the same intensity. They just don't admit it that openly.