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Aameen! Thank you so much!
I’ve blocked him and deactivated my fb, so I hope that really helps. Because you are absolutely right, it is very tempting. Stupid facebook 
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Look and focus on the future, stop thinking about the past!
Congratulations on the upcoming nikah! Wishing you a happy life ahead.
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Maybe you have this strange feeling because he devalued you by leaving you in half way. It's life so move on and congratulations
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He was a coward, didn't make it happen. Magnolia cupcakes or banana pudding is your answer!
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You should block delete him and anyone that you don't speak to who was associated with him. Once that's done and over with you'll be able to breathe and move on. And don't use the the line "but we have a lot of common friends" which I'm sure you do BUT I'm sure you were also only friends with certain people because of him. Anyone whose going to be posting pictures or constant common comments that you'll be notified with, turn off your notification and delete anyone whose unnecessarily on your list. Those things come with a breakup. That's what happens when your in a small city with mutual friends. It was a serious relationship that had a seriously bad ending and now you have to seriously take the efforts to help you close this chapter of your life. Forget about what "his" friends will think or anyone else, you need to do this for yourself first and the for your new husband to be. He seems to love you very much and you seem to appreciate him so you need to do what's necessary to mentally move on and give this relationship 100% like you would of if it was your first? You know what I mean. I know breakup are tough, I've seen them but Dubai is still not THAT small either, you still have a good chance of never running into him again nor should you worry. If he had liked it, he would of put a ring on it and now you have someone to honor and cherish you with the love you deserve so focus on him. The past is the past and it will always be there, it is apart of your history. But if you do not move on properly and allow yourself to let go of any hurt, guilt or any other resentment or negative feelings tied to your past, so will your husband. You sound happy so do not let your fear of being happy get the better if you. This person exists, you can't erase him off the face of the earth but you don't have to associate yourself with him or anything tied to him anymore, that part will be on you. Do yourself a favor and fb block him as well as change settings to your acct so you don't have to be reminded of him everyday. That chapter is closed.
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Thank you Hadeel, Nightangle, Gina and S and S.
Gina- I think chocolate mousse cake would be the answer! :p
S and S- thanks for that tough advice. I think I needed it. I can't wait for the day when I'm indifferent towards his existence.
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Block him and all mutual friends you have with him on fb and everywhere else. And never, ever give in to the temptation of checking his facebook. Don't even think about him, when a thought about him enters your mind, actively start thinking about something else. After a while, he will become a distant memory, although the anger will remain, but it will become passive. You have to train yourself to be indifferent. It wont happen automatically.
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The reason you're having these thoughts is because you never got any sort of closure. Your ex just up and left.
Its normal to feel this way.
What you should do is disconnect in every way from anything that has to do with your ex. You will never be able to enjoy the new phase in your life until you do that. When good things come our way...like your current fiance and wedding...we have to appreciate them in order to be happy. Until you're thinking about this guy...you won't be able to. And that's not fair to your fiance is it? How will you fall in love if half of your mind is occupied with thoughts (good or bad) of another man? In order for you to be happy, you have to really give your relationship your all...that would include your mind.
Deactivate your account OR block him completely...whatever you decide to do...stay away from him otherwise you'll be ruining your own happiness.
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sarashahid− I'll try to do that and hopefully it works. Not giving in to the temptation is hard which is why I blocked him and deactivate my facebook, so can I focus on my wedding and my fiance. Thanks :)
Reha− You are sweet. Thank you! I'm not afraid of being happy with my soon to be husband, all I'm afraid of is my past haunting my life with him. Therefore, since those check ins and whatever, I've been trying my best not to let him affect me too much. Keeping myself busy as much as possible and praying to Allah to give me strength and heal my heart even without the closure. HE's the ONLY Healer.
Pray for me please. Thank you all for your kind words and advice.
Id strongly advise you not to visit your ex's page or try to see whats happening with him in anyway possible. Doing so will only hurt and you'll fall into this weird pattern where u start checking up on him often.
ive been there and my advice would be to focus on your new relationship and forget about the coward.
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials and all the best to you!
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Have you repented for your haram relationship? Have you told your fiancé that you had a boyfriend during university? Don't get married until your mind is fully clear, because you could be damaging another person's life. He needs to know the truth about your past and you need to sincerely repent, for your sins. If he can accept you and your past then it is fine, however until he knows don't do this.
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^ I don't think that's our business whether or not he knows or if she has "repented." Although I have a feeling he knows, she seems to have a good head on her shoulders and I think it's a judgement call to advise her to repent for her past relationship. That's not up to anyone else, its between her and HER deen and not the advice she seeked.
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Have you repented for your haram relationship? Have you told your fiancé that you had a boyfriend during university? Don't get married until your mind is fully clear, because you could be damaging another person's life. He needs to know the truth about your past and you need to sincerely repent, for your sins. If he can accept you and your past then it is fine, however until he knows don't do this.
repentance is between her and GOD.
on telling the fiance, its up to her if she wants to or not but i just want to say that if she has decided to forget her past, is over her ex and faithfully entering into her new relationship then she comes clean and it is not obligatory on her to tell her husband to be about her past. as long as she is faithful to her husband to be and does not intend to keep any contact with her ex then its all good.
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Thank you CoughCough for your advice and S and S & gudiaali for your support! :)
Have you repented for your haram relationship? Have you told your fiancé that you had a boyfriend during university? Don't get married until your mind is fully clear, because you could be damaging another person's life. He needs to know the truth about your past and you need to sincerely repent, for your sins. If he can accept you and your past then it is fine, however until he knows don't do this.
Although I don't owe anyone answers and would request to just advice on the question I asked, yes my fiancé knows and he has accepted me with all that I am. However, I'm not sure if you are aware that Islamically, you are not supposed to 'confess' to anyone,not even your fiance/ husband if you have confessed and repented to Allah. As for repentance, that's between me and My Rabb and that's one relationship I don't wish to discuss here.
Regardless, thank you for your input.
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Thank you CoughCough for your advice and S and S & gudiaali for your support! :)
Although I don't owe anyone answers and would request to just advice on the question I asked, yes my fiancé knows and he has accepted me with all that I am. However, I'm not sure if you are aware that Islamically, you are not supposed to 'confess' to anyone,not even your fiance/ husband if you have confessed and repented to Allah. As for repentance, that's between me and My Rabb and that's one relationship I don't wish to discuss here.
Regardless, thank you for your input.
I have no mal intention but dear parakeet its not as easy as it sounds.Guys throw it back at your face intentoinally/unintentionally.
All the best wishes.
:)
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learnt quite a bit from the answers. :) good luck on ur upcoming shaadi and mubarak!
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It’s a date, lets go get some from Panini or Shakespear. 
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aahhhh... facebook.... when would you stop!!!!!
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yayy let’s go!! 
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I have no mal intention but dear parakeet its not as easy as it sounds.Guys throw it back at your face intentoinally/unintentionally.
All the best wishes. :)
I'm sure they all are not the same. And hopefully he isn't like that. Plus, it's too soon to worry about that.
Always hoping for the best :)