Re: Sincere advice needed. Please.
As I’ve mentioned in one of my threads before, that I’m getting married soon. To be precise, in less than a month Inshaa Allah. We got engaged last year and although it was arranged initially, I’ve started liking him because he has an amazing guy with a beautiful soul. He’s very caring and loves me a lot, Alhamdulilah. I’m not sure about love from my end, but I respect him.
So here’s the twist:
When I was in Canada (I reside in Dubai now), I used to be with a guy in my university. We were together for about 4 years and we intended to get married after graduation. So I finished my graduation and moved back to Dubai where my family lives. He ‘promised’ he’ll bring his parents to Dubai (he’s dad works here) by the end of that summer, so that our parents can meet and also for eid with his dad. He had already spoken to his mother who had said that I should wait until both families are in the same city. My parents already knew about it and they were waiting for them too. Anyways, they did come to Dubai after a long wait BUT her mom said no the day before our parents were supposed to meet and they left for Lahore 2 days later. I was devastated by this point but he again ‘promised’ again that he’ll convince his mom and they’ll come back to Dubai in a week or two.
However, he didn’t contact me at all and just disappeared until I emailed him a week later that what is going on. To which he replied that his mom won’t budge and he doesn’t know what to do. So basically, he turned out to be a coward. He still wanted to continue talking to me but I said there’s nothing left and its over. This is last year and we haven’t talked ever since. 4 months later I got engaged to the guy I’m marrying now. It’s been more than an year now.
The thing is, we have many common friends and I saw him commenting on one of our friends photo so randomly I went to his profile. He isn’t on my friends’ list but his profile is public and I noticed that he has been checking in places in Dubai for past 2 weeks, posting his number and what not. I have been doing completely fine until I found out that he’s in the same city and checking in at places I usually hang out. Since then I don’t know why I’ve been really bothered. I can’t explain the feeling. I don’t miss him, in fact I’ve more anger towards him than anything.
I’m not sure if it’s because I’m getting married in a month or memories flooding back (I’m pretty sure I’m over him and I can’t picture myself with him).
I’m sorry for all the blabber but I couldn’t talk about this to anyone at the moment since everyone is busy preparing for my wedding and I’m really exciting for my wedding too. Please tell me what are these annoying feelings? Any sincere piece of advice would be really appreciated.
Please help. Thanks!
Parakeet, its better that you dont look behind. Being with a guy who cares about you and loves you is a blessing. He’s gonna be all yours in a month. Dont think even for a sec to leave him for someone who left you when you needed.