I was shopping for Eid presents for the kids when I ran into a Turkish acquaintance. We were showing each other pics of our kids, when some Dutchy males walked by and remarked to us, ‘you two look very beautiful with those headscarves, they are so lovely on you’, and then they walked away laughing and all. What’s wrong with people?
If females with hijabs/headscarves wanted to get remarks like that, they would throw off their hijabs, put on full make up, change the way they dress and get a beautiful hairstyle.
They knew very well why we wear headscarves and then they intentionally make remarks like that. It was so childish, really.
When grown ups make comments to belittle or insult other people, they come across extra stupid.
Just ignore it Sadya. People are insensitive and immature and you'll find such people everywhere in the world. You could have asked them what they found so funny, but that may have just made it worse ... but you could have given it a go depending on whether you could handle their childish behaviour and given a worthy response to shut them up.
Mehnaz, I wouldn’t assume that. Perhaps they were laughing about something else and we muslims in our self-centeredness assume that everthing is directed towards us.
Either way not everyone knows the pt about hijaba nd i do not think she should be upset that guys do not realize that the pt of hijab is avoiding attention…living in the non-muslim world wearing hijab often does the opposite.
Perhaps you are right Amelie. Sadya has made it sound as if they really were laughing at her which is why I said that they were mocking her. Perhaps she did get it wrong and they were laughing at something else altogether. Who knows!
No, they were laughing at us, and pointing at us while they were walking away. My friend and I looked surprised at each other and back to them. We didn't say anything back, we were just surprised. This never happened to me before while wearing hijab. sheesh!
Besides, where I live, there are so many hijabis, nobody notices anymore. People don't care and in my neighbourhood we have a nice healthy mix of different cultures and religions and most people just accept each other. I've seen hijabis with make up and tight t-shirts, they give out a different message. But my friend and I were dressed differently. After all those years of hijabis living here, communicatin with people here, everyone knows their purpose, so it was surely only done to annoy us.
If people can't stand someone elses religion or culture, or just another person, they should just ignore that person instead of making idiotic remarks.
And that's a good reply, to say it would suit them, I will remember that. I hope I'll never need it though.
I have an Indian colleague (don’t want to paint all of them like that) who came to me after ‘hearing of earthquake’ a few days later and I could see him inside how happy he was (for the damage caused by earthquake) and was trying to cover his smile when he asked if my family was okay, you can’t imagine how my BP shot up
i would’ve break his legs..