In some ways…silent treatment is probably better than, say, being yelled at, or sworn at (called names etc)…but still…the silent treatment, or freeze, can be pretty hurtful as well…especially in some situations when you don’t know waht you did wrong…whether it be a spouse or relative or friend… So how do you deal with it, when the person refuses to communicate with u?
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You leave them alone for a little while and let them come to you.
I get like that...and the best approach is to leave me be. I will come around eventually and talk to you. This is only for girls though.
Now for guys...totally different. If you see me (dont know about other girls) go quiet and you dont ask what the issue is...you run the risk of World War IV when I do decide to talk.
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I hate silent treatment... better you vent out and say something
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Confront them . Usually breaking the shell is fun :D
I can never do the silent treatment…even if I try to stay quiet, my face gives it away and my husband usually knows I’m upset.. (and more often than not he will even pinpoint the exact reason 
)
I see your point.. 
haha…i know some people who are very non-confrontational and avoid situations that would cause for it..i hate it too…but at hte same time, if I feel I’m getting silent treatment from someone, or can sense any other strange behavior (like hostility or whatever at me) I confront them straight away (which is never in good result 
). That makes me stupid or brave…i dont know.
but I still hate confrontation
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I dont feel anything as I am the one dishing out silent treatment to my wife. She is very vocal if she does not like something .... :)
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For me....if I care about the person, then their silent treatment will hurt me. If I don't care about the person, then it won't bug me as much.
In the latter situation, I'll try to find out what's wrong and if the person doesn't want to talk to me...I let them be.
In the former situation, I'll make a greater/more persistent effort to find out if something is bothering them or if I've offended in some way. I may even say "If I've unknowingly hurt you, I'm sorry." If they're willing go communicate...great. If not, I give them space. If they cool down/come around, great. If not....fine. Gotta try to move forward.
I dunno.
I find it a pretty childish way to deal with things. To me it says "I'm angry at you so I'm not gonna speak to you and see how you like it...so there!" That's grade school nonsense. But it happens a lot, surprisingly enough so I simply act as if nothing's wrong. If the person wants to talk to me about it, that's great. If not, that's fine too. Unless I'm aware of something that I've done, I'm not going to stick my neck out and risk making it worse. I wait for the person to come to me.
I can understand when someone is upset and wants a bit of space for a little bit to cool off so that he/she won't say something in anger that will be regretted later on. But after a point, you have to deal with the issue and get past it...if you don't want to deal with it (and yeah...sometimes, there are reasons where it's best not to get into the issue again), then at the very least, be civil. You don't have to have a detailed conversation with the person every time you see him/her, but a Salaam and how are you doing won't kill you.
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I just find it sad alot of friendships can fall apart because of this silent treatment business...if someone hurts you, let's not talk to them, but instead harbor resentment for them until there's no good feelings left for that person....meanwhile the other person knows you are being distant but they don't know what they did.
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^It's also annoying when the offender DOES know that they're wrong (and everyone around them knows they're wrong)......and you're justified in not wanting to talk....but the offender can't humble him/herself enough to make amends.
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I find it very childish to give someone the silent treatment. The only times I don't talk when upset is when I don't know what to say because I am still figuring things out in my head - this is when that happens during a conversation.
For the people who have given me silent treatment, I finally learned to not care. It is their responsibility to come and tell me if I hurt them in some way. I do try to ask when I notice that someone is upset with me, but if they don't want to talk, then that is upto them.
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For the normal people in my life, friends and family, I leave them alone until they're ready to talk. But for him, I pick at him until he has no choice, then we talk about it :D
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Coz it's easier to bury things under the carpet than to discuss them openly.
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I never used to use silent treatment. I would sy what I felt. Then I got super exhausted from being vocal and apparently no one likes the vocal straightforward blunt girl. So blah.
I just don't talk to people who annoy me or if something is bothering me I just don't address it anymore unless it's destructive and a pattern. Only had to do thy once these past 4 yrs when someone at work was harassing me. Had to put in a complaint to him.
Otherwise, I've found that not addressing it usually works better, and yes it is lazy, but it's just easier to not talk to people you have issues with rather than make a big deal out of it with discussions. People just get offended and don't change anyway, and word spreads when you are the argue-er. No one want to deal with you then and you're no one's favorite.
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In response, I yell swear, cruse and call people names. :)