I have a friend who is getting married soon inshallah. Her inlaws are mashallah really sweet and there are no real complains. She also has a sister inlaw who s acting a bit weird (according to me). She told my friend that she is the first women between her and her brother ans that her brother (husband of my friend) is sharing evertrhing with her… This sounded like a warning to me…
Another thing was that the sil is making comments like u should loose wait, ur back is to large etc. My friend and i go 3/4 times a week to the gym, she is a size 8 and after hearing her sil she got disturbed and almost stopped eating…it was rediculous cuz even if my friend isn’t a size 0, she has a beautifull normal figure and cuz od the sil she thinks she is to fat.
On eid her husband (they have done nikah) sended her eid gifts …her sil called her ans said u shouldnt send gifts to pk and i already told my fam not to send gifts to uk …it is to expensive. I was sitting next to her when the sil told it her…i felt sooo bad for my friend.
My friend told this to her husband…and he asked it to his sister…guess what! She refused!!! She told him that she couldnt talk with my friend cuz the line got disc
It might be that i am over concerned but i do think that the sil s …jealous…she is 28/29 now…not married…doin her studies in foreign, telling my friend what places she should visit in uk even though we r uk citizens… She s bossy and want things to her way…and lies to her brother about things done and saidto tthe friend…
Soo is it just me? Or does anyone has the same? Or samw thoughts like i do? How can i help my friend??
Is your friend going to live with her in laws? If not, I'd suggest just ignore the SIL, especially her taanay about your friend's figure and appearance. It's none of her business really, and your friend will only be encouraging her by acting upon her comments.
Has your friend told her husband about this? She should talk to him.. not in a whiny way, but he needs to know that this can be a potential problem once/if she starts living with her in laws.
If things get out of hand, tell your friend to take a firm stand and establish clear boundaries. If the SIL starts making personal comments, tell her firmly but politely that she is crossing the line. Ultimately it is up to your friend to protect her self respect.
you may be right in your assessment but I wouldn't suggest that your friend take any sort of action at all........to do so would be to give credence to the SIL's words and behaviour.
just smile, nod and say, "Thank you ever so much for your concern."
air hugs and kisses.
Is your friend going to live with her in laws? If not, I'd suggest just ignore the SIL, especially her taanay about your friend's figure and appearance. It's none of her business really, and your friend will only be encouraging her by acting upon her comments.
Has your friend told her husband about this? She should talk to him.. not in a whiny way, but he needs to know that this can be a potential problem once/if she starts living with her in laws.
If things get out of hand, tell your friend to take a firm stand and establish clear boundaries. If the SIL starts making personal comments, tell her firmly but politely that she is crossing the line. Ultimately it is up to your friend to protect her self respect.
Noo my friend will stay with her husband in uk...
She did told her husband more than once about the behaviour of his siter, he said that his sister is informal and isnt serious, or she denies it infront of him
She even had the guts to demand a tourist visa from my friend
Like another guppy did; She could record her sil convos and then relay it back to hubby. Perhaps even chat to her online about it. That would at least set the record straight and resolve one issue.
Its stupid to take a few remarks of one person to heart, disregarding goodness of the rest of the family, especially the guy.
It's not only about the remarks, it's also about the way she acts and reacts and denies at the end...the warnings like my dad and brothers do everything i say blabla .... And its not that she isn't appreciating tge goodness of the fam...it just shows me that whatever happens ...thr will ofnthe sil will rule:s
Like another guppy did; She could record her sil convos and then relay it back to hubby. Perhaps even chat to her online about it. That would at least set the record straight and resolve one issue.
Wow :-| seriously? Did the hubby of the guppen believed her?? And what result did it brought?
That's good.. she won't have to deal with this drama on a daily basis then. Ignore SIL's comments for now and focus on building a good relationship with the other in-laws . You friend should just be careful to not give the impression that she has a problem with her SIL.
This couple is getting married...actually is already married, so why can the wife not speak to her husband and clear everything once and for all. Communication or lack of it seems to be a big problem in most marriages.
To a certain extent theses problems are universal. Please minimize the situation and it is best ignored. It may be jealousy but best to give husband more love and respect to other inlaws who are nice. Ignore, ignore, ignore SIL and other troublesome relatives
