Although these signs do not necessarily indicate that a child has been abused, they may help adults recognise that something is wrong. The possibility of abuse should be investigated if a child shows a number of these symptoms, or any of them to a marked degree:
**Physical Abuse **
Unexplained recurrent injuries or burns
Improbable excuses or refusal to explain injuries
Wearing clothes to cover injuries, even in hot weather
Refusal to undress for gym
Bald patches
Chronic running away
Fear of medical help or examination
Self-destructive tendencies
Aggression towards others
Fear of physical contact - shrinking back if touched
Admitting that they are punished, but the punishment is excessive (such as a child being beaten every night to ‘make him study’)
Fear of suspected abuser being contacted
**Emotional Abuse **
Destructive tendencies Note: A child may be subjected to a combination of different kinds of abuse.
It is also possible that a child may show no outward signs and hide what is happening from everyone
I know of someone who would report about her granddaughter coming home with bruises whenever she visited her mom and her step father..but the police said that she was just a nosey grandmother.Finally this has resulted in the three year old being Beaten to death by the step father.He hit her in stomach and her skull fractured ..while she was crying with pain and showing the claasic signs of ead trauma, her sorry ass of a mother just gave her tylenol and never took her to the ER. He kicked her to make her quite and she ultimately internally bled to death.
This makes me soo angry the police didnt do its job, to protect this young baby from those monsters. A beautiful 3 year old girl.I cant imagine how her older 5 year old must have felt..watching all this yet unable to protect her baby sister. May that man and his wife rot in hell
one question, do u think abuse is as rampant in desi groups as others?
Firstly, thank you :)
Well, It's hard to say which race or cultural group is more prone to be victims of such behaviour. Personally, from what I have seen is that it depends and you can't really pin point and say that desis or bla bla are more prone to this. There was someone who I knew and she was a victim of child abuse. Her dad used to frequenlty beat up(i'm not talking about a genral beating up) once he tried to strangle her with a belt because she refused to get married when she was 16. On the otherhand, I also know an English girl who was a victim of child abuse aswell.
I know of someone who would report about her granddaughter coming home with bruises whenever she visited her mom and her step father..but the police said that she was just a nosey grandmother.Finally this has resulted in the three year old being Beaten to death by the step father.He hit her in stomach and her skull fractured ..while she was crying with pain and showing the claasic signs of ead trauma, her sorry ass of a mother just gave her tylenol and never took her to the ER. He kicked her to make her quite and she ultimately internally bled to death.
This makes me soo angry the police didnt do its job, to protect this young baby from those monsters. A beautiful 3 year old girl.I cant imagine how her older 5 year old must have felt..watching all this yet unable to protect her baby sister. May that man and his wife rot in hell
OMG! this is so sad :( I have heard of so many similar stories which just refelcts the extent of human evilness.
Suprisingly, the numbers are increasing in our desi community as well. Parents are getting too busy to spend time with kids, and out of frustration, they verbally and physically get abusive. A social worker friend was telling me.
so...now in pakistan discipline is very diff....pitai is for many kids a normal part of growing up. myself and others onthsi forum have listed our mothers expert utilization of normal household items as javelins and i guess for obese kids..harpoons..
how do u rationalize that with the fact that this can be considered abuse? where is the line drawn?
PS: yeah ammi, I may just sue you
PS2: yes my mother sometimes reads my posts on GS
I have alot of trouble with this one....while I am horrified at any report of child abuse and agree that schools, teachers and trusted elders should be on the lookout for it, it can really turn into a witch-hunt. There have been a number of horror stories in USA where CPS dropped the ball and a child ended up dead. Horrifying to be sure yeah? But that has a snowball effect on those of us who have children with eating issues. Children who have calcium deficiency and are prone to breaks and bruises. I mean heck, I have no prob letting anyone come into my house and investigate me and my boyz, the eldest one of whom looks kind of skeletal. But the fact of the matter is that I get REALLY scared when he comes down with a stomach virus. Its not like they'd come in and spend a few days with us to see whats up - they'd just take him away from me - along with the younger 2. That makes it something to really think about yeah? I'm SO glad (for this particular reason anyway) that I live in this upscale kinda town. I'm very vocal about my sons eating and weight issues, very vocal about all the docs we go to (actually whether we need to or not!). JUST imagine if you found yourself with a child like this, have lower income and live in a lower income place. This happened very recently with a young mother in Florida named Erin Markes. VERY sad story, one that is still unfolding ... and perhaps a subject for another thread.
Well hitting a child lets say with a pan or anything heavy u can find at the time would be harsh on them. I guess you can’t just let them get away with everthing and parents might have to deal with them. However, they don’t really need to use any physical force as long as they can control them in other ways.
I have attached some links hopfeully this may help you
[INDENT]Well hitting a child lets say with a pan or anything heavy u can find at the time would be harsh on them. I guess you can’t just let them get away with everthing and parents might have to deal with them. However, they don’t really need to use any physical force as long as they can control them in other ways. I remember when I was like 7 years old, my cousins used to break their tvs, furniture and whatever they could find. The parents never stopped them :cb: Maybe they might’ve thought acha kaam kar rahae hain :cb:[/INDENT]
[INDENT]I have attached some links hopfeully this may help you :)[/INDENT]
[INDENT]To me it seems that it is a ritual for desis to give their kids a good beating up :cb:[/INDENT]
[INDENT]Hmmm… nahin I don’t think u should sue ur mum, maybe u were just too hard to handle :cb: Otherwise na maar parhti Times have changed now though :)[/INDENT]
I see exactly what you’re saying and I hope that Allah blesses you and your family
Ask - That is DISGUSTING! How can people do that?? Do they not feel for kids? And a 3 year old!! Her mother is a ****ing *****…so it was okay to watch this random man kill her own daughter?! She doesn’t deserve kids… I should stop now :breathes in:
Times have changed now though 
That is DISGUSTING! How can people do that?? Do they not feel for kids? And a 3 year old!! Her mother is a ****ing *****…so it was okay to watch this random man kill her own daughter?! She doesn’t deserve kids…
I should stop now :breathes in: