it was a normal explanation to the aunty that her state is so bad that she didnt even want to show her face on Skype. your mother in law and the aunty are both women, we all understand how sensitive women can be on their appearance. in my opinion she helped you and instead of being thankful you are taking it on the negative.
So actually, you are being over sensitive.
Exactly. Just stay postive, think about the outcome, you didn't have to go out. She gave example of her sister/ daughter to other woman to stress the point that if you don't go to meet close relative " to wo kis khait ki mooli hy"
Think if she had done the opposite and you might have got some points in heart of the other person but then you might have to go and meet them for courtesy and you would still be pissed off with this situation.
I would like to think she didn't mean anything bad but finding it hard :(
alway hear about mother in laws saying woh to aisi hai or woh yeh nahin karti woh nahin karti.
nver thought mine would speak about me in that way. We have a good relationship from how I see it so it's really kind of taken me by surprise hearing her use that tone.
She could be pacifying the relatives who might be upset that you're a no show by over exaggerating and not really believing what she says. Better them thinking you're indiscriminately hiding rather them thinking you're just a witchy bahu who doesn't want to meet them specifically.
Honestly you could take offence but the headache will be yours.
Interesting point StrangeOne.
I never thought of it like that at all. I didn't think my mother in law is the type to be harsh about me to other ppl which is why I was so disturbed and upset even though it may e a trivial thing it just made m wonder does she moan about me to others and I don't realise it but maybe she was being a bit clever like you said ... Hmmm
I don't think you should be upset or offended. I think she exaggerated so the aunty would back off and not insist. That's what it sounds like to me.
Don't think too much into this because she didn't really say anything bad about you...she just tried to ward off intrusive ladies who WILL judge you based on how you look right now. Instead of subjecting you to their strange looks and questions, she lied a little and got you out of it.
Thanks for helping me see a different side to things.
Im going to let it go and gently mention in passing how exhausted I am feeling in case she does think I am being rude.
Knowing her personality I think it's more likely she was appeasing aunty then moaning about me