sick ov my husband's behaviour

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Re: sick ov my husband’s behaviour

@queer

my eyes hurt. i read your blah, i still don’t know what exactly the problem is. hubby is a bully with no real job or career or stability? did i get that right?

d prob is not bout his job or career d prob is smtimes i feel he doesnt value me or ma opinions. thr iz smthing missin btween 2 ov us n thts call mental compatibility. he iz no more as same as he used to b b4 our marriage n he accepts tht n tells me i did things according to u bcoz i fell in love wd u n didnt want 2 loose u.

@sweetypari

I think he has bitter experience with his first marriage that bitterness doesnt allow him to trust you and your feelings

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@S_and_S

i dont understand, so hes moving to another place to study? are you going with?

if you are tired then stay strong and do what is the right thing to do for yourself. it may not be easy but only you know what that is. i personally think he sounds like a jerk, doesnt understand the value of companionship…

he wants both ov us 2 move together.

@Ma_Mooli

I think its a much bigger issue than a a new doormat. This guy is belittling and insulting her at ever opportunity. He sounds crazy with a narcissistic personality.

I wonder if his previous marriage broke down because of this behaviour? Or perhaps it is an after affect and he still hasnt moved on.

It seems like he has low self esteem, where he cant believe that anyone could love him with that kind of personality/ behaviour, so he doesnt trust your feelings are genuine. Thats also why it makes him feel good to put you down. It gives his ego a boost.

Im not sure bringing a baby into the picture is a good idea atm. Its not likely to help things. Also how will you finance the costs of a child when he is a student? and you will probably have to raise the child alone ( no family support) in a different country. Is childcare even an option?

I dont know, this person seems toxic with serious mental issues, and if he doesnt deal with them, it will only get worse. I would not consider bringing a child into an environment this unstable and negative. He needs counselling, perhaps you both can get marraige counselling aswell. But if nothing else works, im not sure its worth putting up with any more years in to this.

wt wud u suggest me MM in tht case? bcoz i lv him so much n m sure he does too. whn i imagine ma life wdout him it makes me feel worst. smtimes he is too good bt when he isnt i feel lyk crying loud n leave him just at d moment.