I hv been keepng it 4 a long time in ma heart but nw its hurting me inside. I am sick ov ma husband’s behaviour. Hv you ever loved some1 and still u got fights in your relationship? im goin through it. it is my love marriage. i married to this man who was a divorcee. his first marriage lasted for appx. 7years but due to no compatibility wth his xwife, their marriage was dissolved and then we got married. i love him and he says he love me too but the prob is he never expresses. initially i was so irritated but later i compromised over that bcoz he made me believe he loves me too mcuh but its just that he can never express so i should not expect that from him. he argues too much. i was a very livehearted girl but now seems all my confidence has disappeared. he insults me when arguing.. keep on calling me how illitrate i am , and uses that specific word, jaahil, again and again, he knows i dont like it, but still he says that. he says, he is perfect and he can never be wrong and if there are any fights between us then those are just bcoz of me, he says he is a very simple man, like an open book but i find him very complicated. sometimes when i talk to him, he makes faces like he has tolerated my sentence where i say nothing like that to him and then he asks me to leave the topic or start making me understand what his point of view is with such a tone that he is actually forgiving me for what i just said. he has ruined a lot of money over 2 different businesses and does what he wants to do. he planned what he wanted to do first time and then asked my suggestion, when i forbade him, he said i gave you freewill now tht your suggestion is not according to my will therefore i reject your idea and will do what i want to do. he lost a big amount over that. few days back he was upto somthing and i told him tht do ask me before takin any steps he said ok then one day he came home and told me the whole scenario and asked me what to do i stayed quiet and actually i was thinking what shall i suggest him and he then said it loud ‘i have asked for something’ i instantly said yes but how can i take decision before thinking over and he shouted You are not the one to take decision, its me I was like fu----up, i knew its not me who has to decide but he was so dominant that he knew already he will not listen to me and maybe that was just a formality. i used to be very logical and wise before marriage but now i think i am all zinced up. seems i cant do anything. i have to be very careful while talking to him that there can be things he can make issue of. last time when he came from the barber shop he wasnt happy bcoz the haircut was not according to his choice but bcoz i like him in any way i told him that he is looking handsome and actually he was, i wanted to make him realise that i love him any way and he shouted that tm pagl ho gai ho dimag kherab ho geya he tomara and blah blah, i was in romantic mood but he spoiled it and left the room seeing tears in my eyes . besides that he brings me anything that i want, facilitate me with anything that is required, provided me fancy clothes, a handsome mobile, anything a girl can dream of. he is not shaki mizaaj he has not bounded me for anythig, he provides me my privacy which is i dont require bt maybe bcoz he needs his. but he is just not my type. he face is always so flat that i can hardly see him really smiling or laughing or glad he is just so plain and when i ask him to be lively he says i am always very happy. i cook for him with all my heart and wait for his first bite to know whether he liked it or not and he keeps on having the meal unless i dont ask him that how was it and he says yes good..fine… infact what if you could add blah blah some more and at last bite… next time falan cheez kam dalna. seems, i can never make this guy happy. his entertainment is watching movies. he watches movies before sleeping, he never sleeps with me. maybe twice or thrice in a year. its been 4 years to our marriage and he for xyz reasons keep asking me to have precautions for baby. i m just so tired of this life. last time, i convinced him for having a baby finally and we are trying over that too but this morning he plans to move to some other country and he want to apply student visa and me as dependent so said listen! v plannin for baby and ager maira visa lag geya to tome as dependent zada hours milaingay to tom kaam karogi ke vomits karo gee? he gave me a thought and changed the topic. he wants to study bcoz of some reasons so dont ask me y he will apply as a student.
i am just so sick of this life, knowing he loves me and i love him too still there is something that sometimes makes me feel to run away.
it hurts alot when someone is so dominant that they take you and your point of views about life forgranted..he has taken you forgranted the way hes been treating you ,you should talk to him and tell him how bad you feel when he does like this tell him that you will support him through thick and thin but he should also listen to you and should know your priorities aswell…and it is said jub aulad Allah tala dete hen to uska rizq barh jata hai…incase if you dont want to live with him anymore because of his careless attitude then there is no need to think any further…ask him simply what he wants?and that you cannot bear such kinda behaviour anymore.