Professionally things couldn’t be better for me. I have got an amazing graduate job with a world class firm and have amazing prospects ahead of me…the opportunity to travel, make lots of money and ultimately doing something that I love. I have worked hard to get to this stage and finally have the dream in my hands…I beat of 1000s application to be one of the five chosen…
But personally I don’t things could get any worse and have never felt so low in my life. Its affecting my work and I am so angry all the time. Its at the stage where I am almost wishing for death or for something bad to happen to me because whats the point?!? if no-one understands me (or so it seems to me!). And I don’t see things improving.
Has anyone ever felt like this and how did you deal with it?
If it's happening b/c of no family or other issues, then I think you just need a perspective change or change in your social environment. May be..get out there, do things out of your comfort zone, do new things, meet different types of people or even volunteer somewhere. Sometimes, those things really help us change our perspectives towards life :)
If you do not feel comfortable sharing the details of your problems , you will get generic advice . If you need advice specific to your situation then please share some details. If you do not feel like it that is fine too.
Just hang in there and this phase of your life will be over soon. Inshallah.
The problem is easily summed up in that I have 'expectations'
How long is a period? because 4 months seems like an eternity atm
expectations are good to a certain extent. You need to ask why and whom are you expecting things from? You also need to figure out a way for yourself to lower down these expectations? You need to trial 'not expecting' and 'just doing things for the heck of it' and see if that makes any difference. A lot of trial and error. I do know that keeping yourself distracted and doing new things really help people overcome such issues.
It might be an idea to take time off work to sort out ur personal issues. If you carry it around with you, its gonna reflect on ur work and seriously impact ur professional life aswell. I dont mean to sound like a downer.
It is too difficult to understand what is going on inside you, but I have a high achiever friend once reached to certain point and achieved everything certain type of emptiness creep into him.
He tried to commit suicide many time (thanks god unsuccessfully), later on marriage and kids given him new purpose of the life.
Now he is living happily with his wife and 2 beautiful kinds.
The problem is easily summed up in that I have 'expectations'
How long is a period? because 4 months seems like an eternity atm
If you're seeking advice, then it would be helpful to be more clear about what your "problems" are. Your post is too vague.
As for expectations.....................who in this world doesn't have them? Who in this world hasn't been let down when their expectations weren't met...and who in this world hasn't had to wait to meet their expectations/goals/dreams. You're certainly not the only one in the world. Reflect over your blessings. Recently somebody I know when through a very hard time...which at first seemed like the end of the world to her...but now she sees that a major good came out of what happened...that there was great blessing in it...that through this hardship came a better direction (you could even say a new beginning) for her life. Hopefully things will fall into place, hang in there.
**YES, i did and believe me...it's neither the end of the world nor the worst but i pray you don't see any worse than this in future...aameen.
i was in Med School and i had it all considering i'm from a village and never went to school until grade 10. i got a quick taste of freedom when my bro left for the US for his higher studies. i was all alone with lots of money and my this new-found freedom caused my attendance in school fall to 35%. a 75% attendance was required to be able to write the final exam in order to get promoted to second year. i was kicked out of med school. the world fell around me...i was taunted and humiliated. i contemplated even to commit suicide but in the end my faith saved me. i ended up doing a B.Sc Degree.
my bro helped me immigrate to Canada where i went to University and finished my Graduate Studies and then went on to do a Ph.D. ... alHamdolillah, things worked out well for me and i am a very happy person now as i've been working and hope to get a teaching position soon, inshaa Allah!
the point is: "har kaali raat kii ek taabnaak subHo hotii hai"...don't despair! it's just a phase and it will pass...you have already won the battle by achieving what you achieved. it's an honour. inshaa Allah, you'll come out of this victorious!!! :) Good Luck :)**
Lack of eemaan brings out these feelings...
Thank Allah 1000 times a day, increase spirituality, look at those below you who have NOTHING, praise Allah swt, be grateful for what you have, give sadaqah to those less fortunate, worry about your death and if you were to die what amaal would you present to Him? It's all good and well being sucessful in your career but fear death and ponder over the afterlife...this world is hard but the next stage is going to be harder so just work at it and everything will be fine...
Oh and the power of dua is amazing, pray for peace, appreciate the little things in life, maybe you are overworked and have not had any time for relaxing..take some time out for you and enjoy life, sport movies family etc. Inshallah what is meant to be for you career wise will happen so don't be disheartened as everthing is from Allah and your time will come too.
Thanks everyone, especially KKF and PK. The probelms are personal and typically family orientated, work AH is fine. However, I do appreciate your advice as I do need to become closer to my deen and I will Inshallah.
I have never considered suicide, as I do know that it is completely against my deen. Just sometimes I really get depressed and I don't see anyway out.
Professionally things couldn't be better for me. I have got an amazing graduate job with a world class firm and have amazing prospects ahead of me...the opportunity to travel, make lots of money and ultimately doing something that I love. I have worked hard to get to this stage and finally have the dream in my hands...I beat of 1000s application to be one of the five chosen...
But personally I don't things could get any worse and have never felt so low in my life. Its affecting my work and I am so angry all the time. Its at the stage where I am almost wishing for death or for something bad to happen to me because whats the point?!? if no-one understands me (or so it seems to me!). And I don't see things improving.
Has anyone ever felt like this and how did you deal with it?
The problem is easily summed up in that I have 'expectations'
How long is a period? because 4 months seems like an eternity atm
Expectations from life, family, marriage and friends are normal.
What is not normal is how much you expect. If you expect too much, you will be disappointed. That's life. Its not fair and people aren't perfect...human beings by definition are imperfect.
What you could do is take a holiday...go on vacation to regroup your thoughts. When I reach a dead-end, I get away from everyone just to think about what I need to do next and what my attitude/expectations should be. Try to get some counseling so you can at least talk these issues out with someone who can help you make sense of them. Find a hobby or start to support a cause actively. We spend a good bit of our lives trying to get somewhere professionally. But what happens once you're there?