So you find out that one of the siblings of your prospective rishta has had relationship issues, may be separated or divorced etc.
Would that affect your decison?
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No. After all, I'm not marrying the sibling.
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I meant in an arranged scenario.
But doesn't it affect what you perceive of the family?
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^ Oh, I see. I didn't go the arranged route, so I'm not terribly familiar. Personally though, unless the family had something to do with the sibling's relationship issues, I would think that the sibling's personal life would be irrelevant and have no bearing on my perception of the family.
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I agree with the above post.
If I knew that the family was playing a part in the separation or divorce proceedings then I would feel differently. In the end your life is your life, and that a persons marital issues should not factor in making the decision.
One of my now bhabhis, at the time of her rishta with my brother (arranged), her sister was going through divorce proceedings. Other nosy relatives etc, and some relatives from her side very snidely pointed out that this is what was happening, and we should be careful looking at this rishta for my brother. ie, their is a problem with the ladies in this family.
My brothers FIL did speak with my brother only, not even my mother about the ongoing divorce. My brother said it was none of his business etc.
Alhamdulillah, after the marriage etc, we have become quite close to bhabi and her family. Her sister has very happily remarried, and what is someones past is their past.
One interesting thing out of all of this is my bhabhi felt very guilty of her own marriage, while her sister was in the process of ending her own marriage. That prevented my bhabi from being happy in the beginning as she felt guilty of her own happiness and circumstances. AH, all worked out now..my bhabi is a gem. MA
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No it wouldn't because each individual is different. So even after marriage if spouse's sibling get divorced should I too.....doesn't make sense.
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It can and does have an effect. It's natural for parents of the prospect to be concerned that the same might happen again. But for them to feel contempt isn't right.
Sibling of a prospective Rishta
No, personally, it would not
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It will not be a deal breaker but i would like to know why it happened.
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No