Sibling Jealousy

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Were/Are you jealous of your siblings? If you were.. how did you grow out of it? and if you are… how are you coping with it?

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i am not jealous…just not in love anymore…:mad2:

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i used to be jealous every time my parents used to play with my cousins, even if it was just 4 a few minutes. Yeah i was also jealous of my younger siblings but not anymore :blush:

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I wasn’t really jealous of my younger bro’s, i loved being an older sis…just got annoyed with the one closest to me in age, cos he wud bother me a lot in our pre-teen/teen yrs…later on (and still today) i became jealous of him cos of the asian double standards :frowning: where he wud be allowed to stay out late at nite, and i cudn’t go anywhere without giving detailed info about who/where/how and had to be home wayyy earlier than him…i guess now i’ve learnt to accept it even though i hate this about our culture, but i’ve learnt to not even bother fighting my parents over it anymore…and about the earlier days, i think we just started drifting away from each other in our teens, and then the last few yrs we seem to sometimes manage to have a few adult conversations without making fun of each other lol :stuck_out_tongue:

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Oh yes i was jealous of my younger sister the most. Both of us couldnt sit in one room. :slight_smile:
I think its part of your life. you compare things and obviously you have to hear, Choti behn ko tang na karo.. but my question still remains, what if choti behn is tang karing me. She used to get away with the advantage of being choti behn :bummer:

But as the time passed, both of us grew to be best friends.

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i was never jealous of the young . but really hated them when they couldn’t ubderstand my views. :mad:

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no but i think they are jealous of me :snooty:

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Being the "middle kid", i was jealous of my older brother because of the advantages he got, like staying up later than me. And jealous of my gorgeous younger sis cause my Mom took her to modeling interviews and she made commercials while me & my bro were in skool. My sis and I are now best of friends, sibling rivalry is definitely something you outgrow.

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mama. keep your hubby away from your sis... :)

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Well my bro's 6 yrs older than me, i dont think i had anything to be jealous of except that like kashmiri said he had the advantages of staying out, he got to move out and stuff.... but however things are now, I just work with it... I don't feel the need to fight about moving out and stuff anyway, its not important to me anymore, or rather the fight and the hurt ill cause my parents aint worth it :)

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Hmmmmmmmmmm…

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Yep, as kids and i thought i'd never grow out of it, would always just hate him for being annoying but bhai's become friend and that is worth all the spiteful words and yep pushing hm down the staircase.. (i was 5)

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I have always treated my siblings as my own kids. I want them to do better then what i have done in life.
They all carry numerous qualities mashallah. I am not jealous of them at all as a matter or fact i think our parents did a fine job at us...

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I was very much jealous of my elder sister, first of all she was the dearest to my mother and secondly she was admired by everyone in the family because of her achievements in academics and the bold steps of decisions she always made.

I was a kid with bad academic background but high aims, and since I was not getting any ground to show what I want to do (basically because of my academics) I never had guts to tell anybody what I want to become in the future, my aunt used to tell me with this acedemic background "yeh to parchoon ki dukaan main baitthai ga".

But I have my own aims and ofcourse the Almighty had written fate for me.

Time is the wisest teacher and the best medicine of scars in the heart.

I somehow become professional and got an average job and I want to go further in academics and get higher in profession.

We get jealous because we can't find or spot a way to get better in any thing. When we find a way to get better and starts working on it and God Almighty seems to with us, we get out of this jealousy shell.

The problem was i could not find a way to get better when i was stuck in academics, but when I started getting success, I slowly came out of the jealousy shell.

Suggession : Always try to get ahead in the path of life no matter how big short you become.

At the end I must say I hated my sister so much that I did not even want to see her, but now I always pray for her success in life and enjoying the rest of life with same spirit.

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thank god i am the only kid of my parents....i have seen my friends agruing with their sibling....good i dont have any bro or sis

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Brothers and sisters are a blessing ... i love them to death and their happiness means more than my own to me and thats not just a dialogue, it's the truth.

I can be content in my own life but worry over theirs constantly. Everything i do revolves around their comfort. I always stop myself from doing things if i think it might hurt them, give them difficulty or anything of the sort.

And worse thing is when i have nightmares one has died ( pscys. say you have these if you are stressd ) and the pain of losing them in those is so so so real i wake up with a huge lump in my throat just wanting to be with them and shower them with all the affection in the world.

Jealousy? never. I would give everything, every little happiness of mine away for them to have it easier. Their troubles make me so unhappy.....and their happiness makes my day :)

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^ i so know what u mean DD... i stay up for hours worrying abotu their problems and with mine, im prob asleep within 10minutes...

i adore my siblings to bits.. even though they drive me insane and most of the time show no respect whatsoever (hehe)..

especially at the moment..when ive only got two weeks more of living under my parents room.. things have gotten so hmmm lovely hehe.. im gonna miss em to bits...

i dont think there was ever any jealousy.. u always get the "but why does he get to do it!" or "why doesnt she get yelled at!" remarks... but that aint jealousy... its just something siblings are most likely to say when they aint getting their way

siblings rule!

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I feel the same as u guys, of course everyone genuinely loves their siblings...but psychologically it is normal for us to feel jealous of each other from time to time...in my case, i was just jealous of the brother who is 2 yrs. younger than me cos we did everything together, but when we got older...he was able to do stuff i cudn't and i thought it wasn't fair, therefore leading to normal jealousy...now it's totally different with my other one...he's 11 yrs younger than me and i practically helped raise him...never felt jealousy towards him and i think that's cos he's a whole lot younger...at the time we fight, get jealous etc., and it's all in good fun and a part of growing up...but as adults we see, that we love them even more than ourselves :)

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^ hehe.. i dont think thats called jealousy... i see it more as trying to get ur rights or showing ur parents what double standards are :D

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It's cool, everyone has their own interpretation i guess...cos i know wot i was feeling at the time, was def. jealousy lol...as far as showing my parents, or trying to show them at least, that was a bonus! Not that it worked! :D