According to your experiences, do you guys think girls living abroad are shyer than the girls living in pakistan, or the girls in pakistan are more shyer? or are we only blunt,naive and outspoken, and shyness-modesty is out-dated?
what i have seen is, even in my case, since our parents only heard bad thing about perdais, but still decided to move here for our better future, they are very protective about us, where they care less back home.
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The upbringing that counts also the environment in which you grow as a person... imo
According to your experiences, do you guys think girls living abroad are shyer than the girls living in pakistan, or the girls in pakistan are more shyer? or are we only blunt,naive and outspoken, and shyness-modesty is out-dated?
what i have seen is, even in my case, since our parents only heard bad thing about perdais, but still decided to move here for our better future, they are very protective about us, where they care less back home.
Can't generalize, Zobi. I have cousins in Pak who are quite mixed. Some are shyer than me and others can be more outgoing than the girls here. You could say that culture may play a role (culture in Pak is more conservative). But even then, it depends upon where you live in Pak. Some cities are more conservative than others.
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I thought shyness was more of a personality trait, no?
But in general, I think Pakistani girls are more shy and that's probably because they have less exposure to audience, opposite sex, discussions etc. I know that I became a lot less shy about voicing my opinions after taking the three mandatory public speaking classes along with a few debates about Islam after 9/11.
Can't generalize, Zobi. I have cousins in Pak who are quite mixed. Some are shyer than me and others can be more outgoing than the girls here. You could say that culture may play a role (culture in Pak is more conservative). But even then, it depends upon where you live in Pak. Some cities are more conservative than others.
dont you find that media is really poisoning pakistani girls minds, especially the ones living in pakistan that if you are bold and talkative (may be they are blunt), good guys will marry you?
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hmmm ... I think girls are more shy in Pakistan , and also more outspoken . It gets really hard in a professional environment in Pakistan to talk to girls sometimes . I don't want to generalize , but compare to here its very different . Here everyone has that professional tone and everyone knows its a work environment , so you don't think of anything else . But back in Pakistan you are always hesitant that should you talk to this girl in office or not . If you have to go to some other department and you really don't know anyone there , then you prefer to talk to some guy from that department then a girl .
On the other hand few might even ask you about your whole family and you start feeling uncomfortable again . Btw again no generalization , but in Pakistani offices I did feel that wall .
dont you find that media is really poisoning pakistani girls minds, especially the ones living in pakistan that if you are bold and talkative (may be they are blunt), good guys will marry you?
I don't live in Pak, Zobi. So, I can't really say. Some girls may naturally have an outgoing and blunt personality. I don't see the connection between girls being blunt and good guys marrying them for this particular quality. Not all guys are the same. Some may prefer a girl who is more reserved in nature.
I don't think that poisoning of the mind should be solely attributed to the media. The media can be a good AND a bad thing. The media can also put forth positive, thought provoking, and beneficial information. One doesn't necessarily have to agree with everything that they watch or read. Depends on what you're viewing, what you get out of it, and how you use the information.
Don't forget other more basic factors which influence one's personality such as family upbringing, environment, peers, personal experiences.
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girls in pakistan are not shy! who are you kidding. from the girl from the village to especially the city girl. they aren't shy. it's just that they pretend to be nice and suljhi hui girls.
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Generalizations on a massive scale here!!!!!!!
watch esp. the last 2 minutes.
i am not saying all Pakistani girls are like this. but this also exists.
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OMG
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whats up with these demented comparisons? is there a competition going on or what...seriously never seen girls back home so obsessed with the desi girls in the west, whats the obsession here?
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^ it's not an obsession. just a forum. where you ask things. and there is no limit to what you can ask. you have something in your head, it itches you for a while, you control, doesnt happen, and then you put it here. simple.
According to your experiences, do you guys think girls living abroad are shyer than the girls living in pakistan, or the girls in pakistan are more shyer? or are we only blunt,naive and outspoken, and shyness-modesty is out-dated?
what i have seen is, even in my case, since our parents only heard bad thing about perdais, but still decided to move here for our better future, they are very protective about us, where they care less back home.
i most cases YES. but it does depend on the eviroment a girl lives in.
its painful to see even 30 sec of those two min let alone watch the entire 2 min of it 
guys, honestly stop watching this bukwas show. i hate it. 
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^ i dont have that thing that'd get me pakistani channels on my tv ... i miss watching the junk though :(
this i just randomly landed on.
Pakistani jerry springer ..whats a shame …
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i am shy.takes dupatta and sharma while typing this post
and then runs to the other room
I am not shy, I can hold a conversation with anyone, no matter what gender, what age.
But I'm not sheyr either... if thats what the girl in the video means.. ?
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They recorded this show under certain circumstances . I don't think so it depict norms of our society .