Some people say they don’t prefer shy individuals because it takes more time and effort to get them to open up and talk to them.
Would you steer away from getting involved with shy people? Are outgoing people better?:aq:
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who so ever is in my naseeb 
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depending about the circumstances or the ongoing debate i find it always better to be moderate than being extremely bold or shy ........ the only exceptions r ,
like if our religion or culture is maligned or questioned .............................. we need to reply boldly ( no need to be shy)
if u get caught in a wrong situation or r under suspision ............................ need to take bold measures to clearify yr position
and if the topic of dicussion is personal stuff ( including love or sex life)....... need to be little shy
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more of a comfort level/ balance thing. if u're mostly shy, you'd feel weird with a person who's totally out there! and vice versa both ways. and i guess oppossites attract too.. one of my cousins is very shy/ the quiet type, however, her fiance' is very loud and they make a great couple mashAllah!
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me n my hubby are both shy . God it creates such a mess :(
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^^ lol...
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Are you going for a recruiter position?
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Allow me to give an example. A friend of mine was attracted to someone I know due to the fact that he is outgoing and friendly. After getting engaged to him, she complained that he talks to everyone, lol, and that she doesnt like that he is so outgoing. smack
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Fortune favors the bold. I would rather be wrong than to appear indecisive.
No, I don't mean this in the dating/relationship concept that is being implicitly discussed, but rather in life. I don't date or chase women, but there have been instances where women have commented that I am confident. I don't think that they get the fact that unlike many guy chasing girl situations, when I am talking with them about a (usually business related) subject, I don't have a hidden agenda.
One instance was at a Alumni networking event, where this attractive woman makes an entrance. The guys are either too shy to come up and talk to her or briefly talk and exchange business cards. I realize that this woman is indeed attractive, however I am a Muslim who is not at the event to chase woman. So keep my intentions pure, walk over, and introduce myself. It turns out that she has a great business degree but is presently working as an Administrative Assistant. After hearing about her strong academic background and her feeling being underutilized, I tell her that her job sucks and degree was waste (please keep the context in mind), wish her a good evening and walk away.
Some two weeks later I get an email from a random person. I think its spam, but turns out to be her. She wanted "to get together" and talk. I ring her to let her know that I am not interested, however I would be able to forward her resume for a open position in another group. Turns out to be great fit.
We do interact at work from time to time. She later mentioned that my confidence was very attractive and she was interested in pursuing something. She knows that I am observant Muslim and keeps it professional.
The takeaway from all of this? Be upfront, don't fear anything but G-d. Whether your intentions are purely business or something else, you have to step up.