Please helpp!
Since I was a little girl, I saw my aunts getting married and they all did not speak or laugh at their wedding events. So what am I supposed to do? Should I be a shy, blushing, bride-to-be? Or, should I laugh and mingle with people at the engagement?
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which ever method you go with make sure you act natural. Avoid being fake because people will be watching you and they'll be able to tell if you are trying to hard either way. I would recommend you say Salam and greet people when they come to meet you but don't be overly social. Enjoy your event :)
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which ever method you go with make sure you act natural. Avoid being fake because people will be watching you and they'll be able to tell if you are trying to hard either way. I would recommend you say Salam and greet people when they come to meet you but don't be overly social. Enjoy your event :)
Thanks! I am very social normally but with people that I do not know, I tend to be very shy. I do not want to talk to some people alot and other not too much. My fiance's extended family tends to create drama. If you talk to one person more than the other, than they will be like "O, she treated us wrong" or "she is not respectful"
so this issue is a little bit confusing for me
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Hi!
I had quite a big engagement and didn't know how to act either, but it just ended up acting naturally! My mum said I didn't have to stare at the ground, so I did look up for all the pictures, and generally spoke to family etc that came up to see me. At mine, the most people asked were how are you, or mubarak etc, so just give them a smile and it should be fine! I don't think I really made much conversation myself though, so just do what feels natural! If you are fidgety and really smiley like me, you will struggle to act really dullhanish! My fiance and I basically spoke to others but just didn't really look a each other!
I hope it goes well for you, and enjoy it because it will be over so quickly!
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My fiance's extended family tends to create drama. If you talk to one person more than the other, than they will be like "O, she treated us wrong" or "she is not respectful" so this issue is a little bit confusing for me
seems like a typical desi family :)
Hi! I had quite a big engagement and didn't know how to act either, but it just ended up acting naturally! My mum said I didn't have to stare at the ground, so I did look up for all the pictures, and generally spoke to family etc that came up to see me. At mine, the most people asked were how are you, or mubarak etc, so just give them a smile and it should be fine! I don't think I really made much conversation myself though, so just do what feels natural! If you are fidgety and really smiley like me, you will struggle to act really dullhanish! My fiance and I basically spoke to others but just didn't really look a each other! I hope it goes well for you, and enjoy it because it will be over so quickly!
Thanks!! And I smile alot soo it will be impossible for me to act dulhanish lol
you mentioned not looking at your fiance.. is that considered bad?
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lol yupp.. they are
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aww, trust me I smile even when I want to cry! Lol, no I don't think it's bad at all, we just hadn't really met before, so it was more due to awkwardness. I guess you will act depending on how you feel at the time, I was really scared before, but seemed to be ok at the time! I bet I will cry at my actual wedding, so just enjoy the being engaged bit happily, and be like an actual dulhan at the wedding :) Like Coolgirl has said be polite and definetely be yourself but with a tiny bit of reservation. I have also just seen your other thread, so will post in there!
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aww, trust me I smile even when I want to cry! Lol, no I don't think it's bad at all, we just hadn't really met before, so it was more due to awkwardness. I guess you will act depending on how you feel at the time, I was really scared before, but seemed to be ok at the time! I bet I will cry at my actual wedding, so just enjoy the being engaged bit happily, and be like an actual dulhan at the wedding :) Like Coolgirl has said be polite and definetely be yourself but with a tiny bit of reservation. I have also just seen your other thread, so will post in there!
heheh.. meee 2! I smile when I am crying or even when yelling at someone. That's why people think that I am just joking when I am not. My fiance and I are already sort of engaged (kachi mangani is what our parents keep calling it) but now we will have an official ceremony and ring exchange. I know him a little but you are right.. it would be awkward. I dont think I will be able to cry on my rukhsati and that makes me worried because everyone does. But teh wedding is in a year so I have a year to worry about that later. Currently I am stressed about this engagement thing. lol
:)
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^lol how can one smile while yelling?? oh and good luck :)
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If your in laws are the kind to create drama then acting a little modest should help. If you don't care about their creating drama then you may act the way you feel at the time.
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^lol how can one smile while yelling?? oh and good luck :)
I would be yelling at someone and I would smile because I would be so proud of myself for finally being able to be mean or defend myself and I would start smiling... and then people think I was just joking.. lol
thnx!
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If your in laws are the kind to create drama then acting a little modest should help. If you don't care about their creating drama then you may act the way you feel at the time.
I am not sure how I want to be... I really do not want any drama so I guess I just have to be modest and be polite
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i think u will know how to act on the day...just depending on how u are feeling...i think u will be nervous so a lil quiet i expect...and it will look like u are 'reserved' and genuine...win win :)
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i think u will know how to act on the day...just depending on how u are feeling...i think u will be nervous so a lil quiet i expect...and it will look like u are 'reserved' and genuine...win win :)
thnxxx..!!!