^Yup! Dominant and Dominant can be a recipe for disaster.
Interestingly, I’ve noticed (a few times) that women who have very strong/dominant personalities are married to men who are more passive. And vice versa. And if I happen to know the person with a very LOUD in-your-face-my-way-or-the highway domineering personality…I think, “You’re lucky that you married someone who is more calm and laid-back. Because pairing you up with someone just as headstrong would not last too long.”
Similarly, I also feel that there is a difference between being quiet and being a doormat. It’s one thing to compromise and be the bigger person and to let things slide…but nobody should allow themselves to become a doormat.
Also, the partner who does tend to have the stronger role…should not take undue advantage of it. For example, even the president or king of a nation, in spite of his/her lofty position over the common folk…will lose the respect of the people real fast if he/she misuses their authority or can’t make decisions that show good judgment.
Another thing is that a couple might be “dominant” in various aspects of the marriage. For example, a husband might be in charge of financial matters. And the wife might be in more in charge of dealing with issues regarding children. If both parents work…they might work together on the issue of expenses. So many variations.