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in these uncertain times with the job market not being at it's best and people being laid off, it's best if both have a job or steady income just in case the husband gets laid off, it won't be a total loss since there would still be the wife's income
plus in order to lead a comfortable life it helps to have two incomes so all the burden won't be on the one person to pay all the bills and they can buy stuff they want and take that europe trip now instead of in 20 yrs.
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Yup she should. coz now days husbands are usually lazy and while marrying a woman they already assume that she will earn too. if she doesnt, then she poor lady will get taanay day n nite and wont get the izzat n position at home she deserves (saying it out of PERSONAL exp) .
I really wont mind working after shadi, 1st coz i cannot keep my mind idle for long time. mind idle ho ga tou u know devil will sit there. 2nd if i can help improving our financial status, nothing wrong with it. after all i ll be enjoying the benefits too.
BUT i will really not like someone marrying me only for the fact that i am working and i have bright future ahead, then thats something hard for me to swallow.
I got few proposals in past and one is current, where i clearly see they are only looking at my job n earnings. :hinna: I am being throughly interviewd by the fathers. in past 1-2 families never came back after listening to my mothly salary figure 
. the current one, i am not sure. they dont know my salary yet :halo:
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McLovin, what are your thoughts?
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plz don’t even consider such people who ask about your salary. It’s not polite . You are a girl and it does not matter what your salary is .It’s the guy’s salary that matters. Good for you that those people never came back .
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Question: What did you do wrong when your wife came out of the kitchen and started yelling at you?
Answer: You made the chain too long.
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McLovin, what are your thoughts?
Hi razzmatazz, I actually dont have an issue if my future wife/partner wanted to work. As long as its all halal! :D
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There is ALWAYS one woman in a relationship. And it could be either the husband (like the stay-at-home-dads, jooro-ka-ghulam-type men etc.) or the wife (the traditional one).
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Working women also obtain respect and freedom by the society and her parents as well. She can now lead a full adult life, Other people still say that women should not work; in other words, a woman’s place is in the home. True, unwedded girls at home, housewives greatly affect the activities in a house. They help enormously in doing the household chores including cooking and washing clothes. Mothers have full time to devote to her children, teaching them the care and protection required. Indeed, these points are crucial factors in the good development of children factors that may not be present in women who work. This is a consequence of the stress due to work and lack of time.But women benefit more at work than they do when they stay at home. For example, when long ago, housewives had to bear the insults of their husbands; “You are a burden on me!”, today working women of marital status contribute equally for the family and is treated with due respect. Money by the working women and men enters the house, bringing more wealth, luxury, comfort and leisure. All this results in a better standard of living.... :)
In all of the families I know of with both parents working, the wife still bears most if not all of the household chores such as cooking and cleaning. They end up becoming burnt out. That is not better. If the husband understands that he has to do 1/2 then and only then is it acceptable.
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depends, if she is single and she wants to work and the immediate family has no reasonable issue then OK if she is married and both of the spouses agree on it then OK if she is married with growing up kids then in my opinion Not because at this age the kids need proper and complete attention of the mother ( more then the father ) if she is married with grown up kids and both spouses agree to it then OK
p.s why can't life be simple as this If-Then-Else statement?
My opinion is the exact same.
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In most Pakistani families the burden of cleaning, cooking etc. tends to be put on the mum rather than mum and dad sometimes then kids washing their own dishes afterwards etc. My mum worked and when she wasn't around my dad was happy to make his own meals, do his own laundry etc and my brother and I helped out with the cleaning. If everyone does their (little) bit it's really not that difficult..
My mum and all except one of her friends worked after their kids started school. She never ended up 'burnt out' because my dad encouraged and supported her cos he wanted her to be self-sufficient and not have to rely on anyone. Altho she was educated when she first arrived in the UK 35-odd yrs ago she didn't even have the confidence to take the bus so he dumped her in the middle of nowhere and told her to make her own way home :DPoint is if husband and family are supportive it's nowhere near as difficult to be a working mum as some ppl make out.. Nowadays it's even easier than our parents' generation as most desi women working have their own mums + dads around nearby to help with childcare and so on..