Should we have threesomes?

Lifestyle Relationships
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You're just queen of constructive discussions aren't you?

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ofcourse there is…it also shows your dirty mind :snooty:

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If you are so willing to limit people discussing issues that you are not comfortable with, then also be willing to let other people put limits on issues they do not want you to discuss.

I love the self-censorship. It happens in every culture, every society.

Gupshup should be part of a research project.

why is that?
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i'm not joking.....pigs do that.

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thanx for the advice i believe in that too BUT i thought GS didnt allow such topics hence my issue with this topic.......but seems like it is allowed so have fun :biggthumb

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

Shouldn't the first question be, is it even allowed in Islam? I think we all know the answer so why even bother with a discussion? What's haraam is haraam, period.

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

Just because it's haram doesnt mean that people can't talk about it or discuss it..or as much as u dont like..actually do it.
when i first saw the "shoul we have sex before marriage" thread i thought it was a sheer joke. as nobody could take it seriously...i was surprised to see 3 pages of replies. Yeah, so if u can talk abt THAT, why not talk abt other topics. At least quit the double standards :)

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

I think alot of the people said the same thing there too- it's NOT allowed, period.

Just because people do certain things doesn't mean we have to open up a forum and encourage such senseless discussions. Just because someone else was being an idiot and got 100+ replies for it, that means you should do the same? Seems like a case of seeking attention more than anything else if this topic is opened up just because of another one. What's next- 'Should we hit the bars on Saturday nights to get drunk?' After all, alot of people do that as well.. and hey, to them it's alot of fun.

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well said

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what make more sense is to look into WHY its not allowed. just refer to mama of 3's post. thats exactly was i was going to write. once u introduce another person into that privateness of ur life, sumthing is def goign to happen. either spouse is always going to be feeling if the opposite person wants it w/ the 3rd person. its just WIERD.

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I'm sure its not the only reason.

Youth of Pakistan?!!
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Re: Should we have threesomes?

OK, so first of all, anyone who finds the topic offensive and inappropriate, should refrain from entering the particular discussion, the topic was very clearly spelled out. If the person posing these questions is in fact just doing it to get a rise out of people or some sort of cheap thrill, you will disappoint them by just not responding. That is your choice and the it is the poster's choice to post whatever topic he/she wants as long as they abide by the GS TOS.

Now, if the poster is genuinely posting the question, there is nothing wrong with discussing a valid social issue. It is wrong to assume that everyone on GS is a muslim and thus has the same morals as you, unless I'm missing something and GS only allows muslims now. If you are a muslim and object to this question, ask yourself this, perhaps the poster is a non-muslim and perhaps by discussing the topic rationally and intelligently you could convince someone that threesomes is in fact a very bad idea, perhaps you could even show someone the right path. You do NOT show someone the right path by berating them and jumping down their throat, you show them the right path by having open and honest dialog. The word of God is spread through kindness and openness, not always through the sword.

Finally, the topic at hand. I think that there is a lot of temptation for married individuals out there. For some reason, and this is just me and I'm not saying I'm a super stud, but it is my opinion that married men tend to attract a lot of single women, I don't know the reasons behind this, but I have seen this on many an occasion. Now, it is very tempting to engage in threesomes to 'spice up' your sex life, but along with the fun comes a lot of baggage. Trust issues, self esteem issues, and self loathing.

I think that there are other ways to spice up things in the bedroom and I think that some of us who have been married for more than 3 days can attest to that. Men, shave your back hair and women, go buy some lingerie. Role play, he can be the poor doodh waala and you can be the haveli ki maalkain, etc.

^ Just my two cents, albeit two very long cents.

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:rotfl:

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

[mod]Guys seriously stop with the personal attacks! Are we so insecure that we cannot even tolerate a person talking about something that challenges our morals? Im sure we can prove our points without making assumptions about other individuals so kindly deal with the question maturely and if it grosses you out so much just stay away from it.[/mod]

Thank you mamaof3, sara516 and Aahmed.

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Thank you. I rest my case.

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

If somone is bored in one's sex life ..

forget threesome

consider onesome

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And here I thought the thread was intended to provide some laugh.

Talking about 'broadening your horizens, if you have heard about 'swapping', that I heard was becoming a common practice in Pakistan at the end of parties (army and elite circles) a couple of years ago. Not aware if the situation is worse or better now.

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Hahaha... khuwaar...

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

Guys chill out, no need to make judgment about the morality of the the posters here, thats just plain wrong, after all its a discussion and if its that bad, just don't participate in it.

I know this might sound shocking, but ambassdor1 is right, there have been such things going on in the elites circles even in Pakistan, so whats the harm in discussing it and bringing it out in the open rather than keeping it a hidden and taboo subject? We did have another topic about premarital sex, and most of you gave your opinions in a very good way and I see no reason why that same patience and restraint cant be practiced here.

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Re: Should we have threesomes?

I agree there is nothing wrong in discussion. Discussion educates you about things that you may have no knowledge of. A person who wants to be guided and in honest in getting guidance always looks forward to discuss things that bother him/her. We should appreciate such steps from these individuals.

Having said that my view point on the subject is:

  • It's not even allowed between husband and his two wives (at the same time).

AQ this thread is not about interfaith marriages. Please stay on topic.