My hands are full…really almost TOO full. I have a 4 yr old who has feeding issues and speech delays so we work with him on that, then theres the stubborn 3 yr old and lastly the beautiful happyfat little grumgrumshah 17 month old.
I’m not a spring chicken and my hands are full as we have no household help. But I havent been able to bring myself to have my tubes tied. Not that I want a girl although it would be lovely but so would another beautiful boy.
Saving for their college is hard, its going to be so expensive. I dont buy things for myself except for steakdinners lol! cant resist Outback.
Should we all gang up on verizon saab to go for number 4? Or just thank God/Allah for the beauties we already have? Its a huge decision and I’m just notsure. I will not take any hormones nor will i ask VS to get a vasectomy…condoms just suck. what to do??
well yes its hard...very hard. but the thought of never having another pretty little vs baby just makes me so sad.
lol, another wifey would be nice! but meanie that I am, she would not be allowed to touch MY VS saab. She would be there to help with housework so that i can play with the babies., cook our dinners n do the laundry. not such a nice life so thats really kind of out of the question....
Well I guess you guys can sit down and discuss that together. You should bring them over to my house, kids are the most adorable things. Too bad you live so far!
The things moms do to raise their kids. Admirable.
Why are you calling Verizon VS saab? Doesn’t VS already stand for Verizon Saab and this way, you are calling him Verizon Saab Saab
Anyway, back to the question. Have you discusses it with him? Does he want a 4th or not? Does he know there’s a thread opened about it? I think it should be your and VS Saab’s mutual decision. The whole gupshup doesn’t need to decide for you whether you should have a 4th child or not. If you can afford it, hey, go for it :halo:
so anyway yup we did indeedy-do discuss. vz-saab ishesitant abt college costs etc...but who-the-heck-knows...maybe we hit lotto or something. Evenif not, well we do have all the essentials we need....
just thoughta little extra pressure may help my case a little thats all.
There are some things that you just have to leave up to God. That doesn't mean a couple should have 12 children without worrying about the upcoming education expenses, but that shouldn't be the primary factor into deciding whether to continue having children or put a stop to it. I think you already have a great responsibility on your shoulders to take care of three boys. I put extra stress on boys because boys are hard to raise than girls. If you think you can handle the 4th child, be it a boy or a girl, I say go for it. That who'll bless you with the child will arrange for the education.
Sometimes we think we are doing the right thing but it turns out to be wrong and other times we think we are doing something wrong but in the end it turns out to be the right thing. No matter how much you save for these 3's college, you never know if you'll end up spending that money somewhere else. On the other hand, if you don't really kill yourself saving all that money for these three, you never know if they'll get scholoarship and you won't need to spend a dime on them.
Mama, with three kids, you already have your work cut out for you. Fourth kid will only mean more expenses, lesser time for yourself and more headaches.
i don't really care about material comforts college costs n stuff....
but shouldn't we think how our time will be divided for kids ....i mean every kid needs special attention .....n the number of family can increase but our hours per day never increase ...that means less time per child .....i didn't think of it this way until my elder two started school .....no matter how good a school is ...u always need to work hard with kids to help them stay on top.....n sometimes i really feel miserable when i can't give 'em as much time as i want!!
anyway, everyone has his own priorities ,.....just wanted to share my point
I think it should be your and VS Saab’s mutual decision. The whole gupshup doesn’t need to decide for you whether you should have a 4th child or not. If you can afford it, hey, go for it :halo: